I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now.
He has 100% custody of his (almost) 14 year old daughter. (mom is totally out of the picture).
Now we're talking about the possibility of my moving in with them. Especially if I get a job out in his area. (he lives 45 min away from me, I make the drive out to his house several times a week).
The problem is, is that he won't let me sleep in his bed if his daughter is home. I have spent the night on many occasions, but if she's home I have to sleep on the couch. (which really is a pain in the neck).
His daughter has shown no interest in sex or dating. And I think it's nieive to think that she doesn't know that we're having sex. We are not blatent about displaying our affection in front of her, but we don't hide it either.
He thinks that she's going to freak out if she wakes up to find me in her Dad's room. He also seems to think that this is somehow going to give her permission to start having sex herself.
Like I said before we've talked about me moving in. Which is something I DESPERATLY want. I love him, I love her. THEY are my family (I don't have kids of my own) I think that my spending the night there would help his daughter get used to the idea of me living there...
He thinks that when I move in I should live in thier spare bedroom until she gets use to the idea...
thoughts?
concerns?
ideas?
He has 100% custody of his (almost) 14 year old daughter. (mom is totally out of the picture).
Now we're talking about the possibility of my moving in with them. Especially if I get a job out in his area. (he lives 45 min away from me, I make the drive out to his house several times a week).
The problem is, is that he won't let me sleep in his bed if his daughter is home. I have spent the night on many occasions, but if she's home I have to sleep on the couch. (which really is a pain in the neck).
His daughter has shown no interest in sex or dating. And I think it's nieive to think that she doesn't know that we're having sex. We are not blatent about displaying our affection in front of her, but we don't hide it either.
He thinks that she's going to freak out if she wakes up to find me in her Dad's room. He also seems to think that this is somehow going to give her permission to start having sex herself.
Like I said before we've talked about me moving in. Which is something I DESPERATLY want. I love him, I love her. THEY are my family (I don't have kids of my own) I think that my spending the night there would help his daughter get used to the idea of me living there...
He thinks that when I move in I should live in thier spare bedroom until she gets use to the idea...
thoughts?
concerns?
ideas?