Our 20 year old son is bright but let say it....he is lazy. After enough pressure we managed to have him move out and go to college. We are paying for college tuition, rent etc. All we have asked him to do was to get a part time job to pay for food, utilities etc. No job = no money. Taking a very light load in college and he seems to have a phobia of being around people. His classes he has selected have been all online, non in person. We have pushed him to apply for jobs but he refuses to accept offers or answer their calls. His girlfriend contacted us and is very concerned about him. We discovered he was/is having suicidal thoughts but has never acted upon those thoughts. Recently, through my EAP program he went to a counselor for 1 session. Has schedule another session for next month. Through his girlfriend again, we discovered that he was told by the therapist he should speak with his doctor to prescribe medication for his situation......whatever it is. Our son will not talk to us about anything personal....he is very angry and defensive about many things. We are in a tough spot. How should we proceed. There are many issues here but we are somewhat afraid to push too hard because of his delicate mental situation. Our old school thought would typically be to stop giving him money and feel a bit of pain of having no money but we do not want to place the burden of his bills upon his roommate. We really want to get him to open up with us so we can help.