okay... this is a question but first it will be a bit of a vent because i am soooo annoyed and need to vent!!!
okay so my Ex Boyfriend David is the father of my Son Felix and my unborn Daughter Alegra.. he left me right at the beginning of February which is over a month ago, claiming he wants nothing to do with me or my children (his children) he said it was too much for him to deal with and he never signed up for this etc. etc. etc. his reason's are not important. he is a dick.... i had always thought though that if he cooled down and changed his mind i would let him back into there lives, no questions asked because every kid should have the chance at a dad if at all possible.. anyway that was my vent.. here is my problem
My Brother Michael is gay, he is in a long term relationship with a loverly man called Spencer they are great together, both have jobs and stable lives and are in every way model citizens.. the other day i had a TAFE night class and Felix was just being destructive at home and was crying and just in a terrible mood and he hadn't slept so was impossible to calm so i didn't want to take him to my night class in that state and no one was available to look after him for me on a friday night so i called Michael and he said that him and Spencer were just having a quiet night at home and would love to look after Felix for 2 hours for my class i was so grateful and i took him over there and went to my night class.. it all went great after class i went to pick him up and he was asleep which was amazing because that doesn't happen easily so i went and slept on the couch because i didn't want to move him and wake him.. that was all fine but Michael's friend Jordan is friends with my Ex David (he is how we met) and Jordan said something to David about how amazing Michael and Spencer are with Kids because of how quickly they settled Felix.. David was furious that i would leave my son un supervised in the house of gay men and has now banned me (only verbally, not in court or anything) from leaving him there EVER and i am the worst mother in the world, so uncaring for my children how could i be so stupid Etc. when i asked if he would take him in these circumstances i got a very blunt NO he is out of my life now...
this is un reasonable yes?? and i just shouldn't listen to him right?? the fact that my brother and his boyfriend are gay does not make them any less capable of looking after my son.. tell me what you think i should do..
sorry for the length of this and for the massive vent..
okay so my Ex Boyfriend David is the father of my Son Felix and my unborn Daughter Alegra.. he left me right at the beginning of February which is over a month ago, claiming he wants nothing to do with me or my children (his children) he said it was too much for him to deal with and he never signed up for this etc. etc. etc. his reason's are not important. he is a dick.... i had always thought though that if he cooled down and changed his mind i would let him back into there lives, no questions asked because every kid should have the chance at a dad if at all possible.. anyway that was my vent.. here is my problem
My Brother Michael is gay, he is in a long term relationship with a loverly man called Spencer they are great together, both have jobs and stable lives and are in every way model citizens.. the other day i had a TAFE night class and Felix was just being destructive at home and was crying and just in a terrible mood and he hadn't slept so was impossible to calm so i didn't want to take him to my night class in that state and no one was available to look after him for me on a friday night so i called Michael and he said that him and Spencer were just having a quiet night at home and would love to look after Felix for 2 hours for my class i was so grateful and i took him over there and went to my night class.. it all went great after class i went to pick him up and he was asleep which was amazing because that doesn't happen easily so i went and slept on the couch because i didn't want to move him and wake him.. that was all fine but Michael's friend Jordan is friends with my Ex David (he is how we met) and Jordan said something to David about how amazing Michael and Spencer are with Kids because of how quickly they settled Felix.. David was furious that i would leave my son un supervised in the house of gay men and has now banned me (only verbally, not in court or anything) from leaving him there EVER and i am the worst mother in the world, so uncaring for my children how could i be so stupid Etc. when i asked if he would take him in these circumstances i got a very blunt NO he is out of my life now...
this is un reasonable yes?? and i just shouldn't listen to him right?? the fact that my brother and his boyfriend are gay does not make them any less capable of looking after my son.. tell me what you think i should do..
sorry for the length of this and for the massive vent..