It seems like every day my daughter tells me something that one of the girls at school has done. H (her best friend) scribbles, or doesn't know how to share. B won't let the other girls play in the playhouse. B only plays with her until A gets to school. H uses potty talk. And then again and again, H doesn't know how to share.
I've been listening and asking how she responds, but last night I told her she really shouldn't say anything about someone unless she has something nice to say.
The problem is that I want her to always feel like she can tell me things. I don't want to dismiss her feelings. I want her to feel confident that I will always support her, but sometimes I feel like she tells me those things just to have something to talk about. (I've mentioned in other posts that she is a drama queen in the truest sense of the term.) I told her if someone was hurting her feelings she should tell me, or if she felt she wanted to talk about something that bothers her, she could, but I know a 4.5 year old has a hard time distinguishing between what is important and what is gossip or tattling. But I definitely don't want her to grow up getting satisfaction from talking about other people in a negative way.
What have you all done to find that balance? Any advice is welcome.
I've been listening and asking how she responds, but last night I told her she really shouldn't say anything about someone unless she has something nice to say.
The problem is that I want her to always feel like she can tell me things. I don't want to dismiss her feelings. I want her to feel confident that I will always support her, but sometimes I feel like she tells me those things just to have something to talk about. (I've mentioned in other posts that she is a drama queen in the truest sense of the term.) I told her if someone was hurting her feelings she should tell me, or if she felt she wanted to talk about something that bothers her, she could, but I know a 4.5 year old has a hard time distinguishing between what is important and what is gossip or tattling. But I definitely don't want her to grow up getting satisfaction from talking about other people in a negative way.
What have you all done to find that balance? Any advice is welcome.