Hello everyone,
My wife & I are trying to figure out how to get through to our 17yr middle daughter about taking care of herself. She seems to have next to no interest at all with taking showers, brushing her teeth/hair or washing/changing her clothes. We have to almost constantly tell her to do these things like we had to when she was a little girl (and didn't know any better.) We are so frustrated with the situation. We have tried to sit her down on too many occasions than I can remember that she needs to take care of herself so she looks nice to herself & others. Her teeth are starting to look yellowed because we can't make her brush her teeth before bed or when she gets up. Basicly we have to ask her over & over & over again to do these things or she just ignores them. (And then we end up not having time to get ourselves ready for work or get to bed when we want to.) She seems to have a bad self view of herself. We try and tell her she is beautiful & smart.
Another item, after her complaining that she doesn't have money to spend, we had been incouraging her to find a job. Which (thank god) she finally got at a local DQ. (Her sister has been working at the same one for about a year now.) That seems to make her happy. Also we can't seem to get her away from playing on the computer or video games or her i-pod. She would sit on one of those things 24/7 if we didn't tell her to unplug. Her grades have been pretty wobbly and she got a D in one of her classes so we grounded her from all of her eletronics until she gets her grade back up. We aren't sure if we need to get her into some sort of counciling or if we should just try and continue to work with her and hope these things we are trying to instill into her will click in her head.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance,
Matt
My wife & I are trying to figure out how to get through to our 17yr middle daughter about taking care of herself. She seems to have next to no interest at all with taking showers, brushing her teeth/hair or washing/changing her clothes. We have to almost constantly tell her to do these things like we had to when she was a little girl (and didn't know any better.) We are so frustrated with the situation. We have tried to sit her down on too many occasions than I can remember that she needs to take care of herself so she looks nice to herself & others. Her teeth are starting to look yellowed because we can't make her brush her teeth before bed or when she gets up. Basicly we have to ask her over & over & over again to do these things or she just ignores them. (And then we end up not having time to get ourselves ready for work or get to bed when we want to.) She seems to have a bad self view of herself. We try and tell her she is beautiful & smart.
Another item, after her complaining that she doesn't have money to spend, we had been incouraging her to find a job. Which (thank god) she finally got at a local DQ. (Her sister has been working at the same one for about a year now.) That seems to make her happy. Also we can't seem to get her away from playing on the computer or video games or her i-pod. She would sit on one of those things 24/7 if we didn't tell her to unplug. Her grades have been pretty wobbly and she got a D in one of her classes so we grounded her from all of her eletronics until she gets her grade back up. We aren't sure if we need to get her into some sort of counciling or if we should just try and continue to work with her and hope these things we are trying to instill into her will click in her head.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance,
Matt