I know this is a parenting forum, and I'm not a parent, but I really need a parent's advice.
I'm 18 years old, and I want to move out, because I'm in a position where I make enough to do so. I work about 45-55 hours a week doing landscaping at a golf course, plus I usually do a couple side jobs each week (mowing, mulch, whatever) just because I can. I already have enough money set aside for school next fall (Paramedic program at a local college), and a little bit in savings just in case something bad happens (car troubles, health problems, whatever). So, it's not like I'd be barely able to survive.
Now, the problem is that my parents are very conservative, very family orientated, and think I should stay at home untill I get my "career" started. They think I should stay at home as long as possible. Also, I've gotten into some trouble before (smoking pot, drinking underage, typical rebellion), so things are a little tense with them. I don't drink anymore at all, and I don't argue with them much at all, but things are still tense because they know that I still smoke pot every so often and they absolutely hate it, even though I don't do it at home.
I want to tell them I'm moving out, but I don't want to upset them too much or ruin my relationship with them. If I thought that I could just tell them and they'd be supportive, I wouldn't be here. How should I go about this? What would you want your kid to explain/say/do to help put your mind at ease? I already have a place picked out, and to my knowledge a pretty good understanding of what I'd be paying as far as bills go.
I really do care about my parents, and I really want to move out. I just want to let them know in the best possible way so as to not have them disappointed in me or think I don't love them or anything like that. Also, I already pay for my insurance/gas/everything I buy, but my car is in my dad's name and I owe him about $400 on it, which I could pay off but he only requires $50 a month on it. I'm afraid that he might threaten to take the car if I move out, but I'm not 100% sure if he'd actually do it. So I want to keep things as good as possible between us (not only for that, but...kinda in large part for that).
Can anyone offer some advice on how to go about telling them?
I'm 18 years old, and I want to move out, because I'm in a position where I make enough to do so. I work about 45-55 hours a week doing landscaping at a golf course, plus I usually do a couple side jobs each week (mowing, mulch, whatever) just because I can. I already have enough money set aside for school next fall (Paramedic program at a local college), and a little bit in savings just in case something bad happens (car troubles, health problems, whatever). So, it's not like I'd be barely able to survive.
Now, the problem is that my parents are very conservative, very family orientated, and think I should stay at home untill I get my "career" started. They think I should stay at home as long as possible. Also, I've gotten into some trouble before (smoking pot, drinking underage, typical rebellion), so things are a little tense with them. I don't drink anymore at all, and I don't argue with them much at all, but things are still tense because they know that I still smoke pot every so often and they absolutely hate it, even though I don't do it at home.
I want to tell them I'm moving out, but I don't want to upset them too much or ruin my relationship with them. If I thought that I could just tell them and they'd be supportive, I wouldn't be here. How should I go about this? What would you want your kid to explain/say/do to help put your mind at ease? I already have a place picked out, and to my knowledge a pretty good understanding of what I'd be paying as far as bills go.
I really do care about my parents, and I really want to move out. I just want to let them know in the best possible way so as to not have them disappointed in me or think I don't love them or anything like that. Also, I already pay for my insurance/gas/everything I buy, but my car is in my dad's name and I owe him about $400 on it, which I could pay off but he only requires $50 a month on it. I'm afraid that he might threaten to take the car if I move out, but I'm not 100% sure if he'd actually do it. So I want to keep things as good as possible between us (not only for that, but...kinda in large part for that).
Can anyone offer some advice on how to go about telling them?