My daughter turned 18 this past June. Around her birthday she informed my wife that she can now do as she pleases as she is now 18. Well, that is exactly what she's been doing. Coming & going as she pleases, not informing us of her activities, i.e. we don't know most of the time where she is, who she's with or anything else. She was coming home anywhere from midnight to 2 a.m. On more than 1 occasion she has left the house & been gone for 2-3 days with no word from her. She has a cell phone, but with only texting & I refuse to spend my time texting her to find out where she is, etc. She is disrespectful, won't help around the house unless she wants something, & is downright rude. She started smoking & I suspect she is drinking. I also suspect that she is having sex. She enrolled in a local community college, & was dropped after 1 month by the school because she failed to submit her immunization records. Now she has lost her financial aid package. She had a part time job, but quit after 3 weeks. She claims we won't let her grow up, but she is acting like an irresponsible brat. My wife & I finally laid down the law in regards to what we expect from her. The result? She moved out of the house this past Friday to go live with her brother & his wife, 900 miles from here, saying that "I can't live under your rules". My wife & I both work, own a home & neither one of us drink or do drugs. I don't know what has happened to our daughter, as she is a completely different person than waht she was a few months ago. My siggy says stepdad, but I have been helping to raise this girl since she was 3 & have always treated her as my own daughter. Where did we go wrong?