OMG...we are in the tween years!
Quick History...my wife and myself have 1 daughter, 11. Happily married for 18 years, my daughter is great in school, has an active social life, etc. Seemingly no issues. Except........
The fighting between my wife and my 11 year old. I'm in the Dad's position which basically means my wife deals with her a lot more than I do since she is the stay at home parent. That said, my daughter sometimes does not listen ("I forgot"), rolls her eyes ("No I didn't"), etc. These things I kind of look at and think well she's just 11. My wife seems to always be nagging at her. Yelling at her for rolling eyes, her attitude, and sometimes I think she yells at her because she is frustrated. This weekend was tears the whole week end it seemed. They headed to walmart to go shopping and 3 minutes after they left my daughter was brought back home and said she was not allowed to go because she was "acting 16, not 11". She then proceeded to lay in her room and cry for 40 minutes staraight. I went into her room to check on her and she told me she's tired of getting yelled at all the time. (My heart broke).
The question, is this normal? Do I let my wife know I think she is being too tough on my daughter? My wife (and myself) have done a great job raising a great kid. Do I zip it and continue on as normal? I'm thinking of going to lunch with the wife tomorrow to discuss, the argueing cannot be healthy.
Thoughts or share your experiances???
Quick History...my wife and myself have 1 daughter, 11. Happily married for 18 years, my daughter is great in school, has an active social life, etc. Seemingly no issues. Except........
The fighting between my wife and my 11 year old. I'm in the Dad's position which basically means my wife deals with her a lot more than I do since she is the stay at home parent. That said, my daughter sometimes does not listen ("I forgot"), rolls her eyes ("No I didn't"), etc. These things I kind of look at and think well she's just 11. My wife seems to always be nagging at her. Yelling at her for rolling eyes, her attitude, and sometimes I think she yells at her because she is frustrated. This weekend was tears the whole week end it seemed. They headed to walmart to go shopping and 3 minutes after they left my daughter was brought back home and said she was not allowed to go because she was "acting 16, not 11". She then proceeded to lay in her room and cry for 40 minutes staraight. I went into her room to check on her and she told me she's tired of getting yelled at all the time. (My heart broke).
The question, is this normal? Do I let my wife know I think she is being too tough on my daughter? My wife (and myself) have done a great job raising a great kid. Do I zip it and continue on as normal? I'm thinking of going to lunch with the wife tomorrow to discuss, the argueing cannot be healthy.
Thoughts or share your experiances???