By "co-sleeping" I'm not talking about a toddler occasionally sleeping in the parents' bed or a baby sleeping in an attached bassinet. My wife and 1-year-old daughter sleep on a full-size mattress on the floor every single night, literally. There's no room for me either, so I've slept by myself in our bed the vast majority of the last year.
I get various responses when I talk to her about it. Sometimes she insists that our daughter won't sleep in her crib, but she's only tried a handful of times. But she's admitted to the pediatrician and me that she's afraid of our daughter growing up too fast, getting independent, and leaving her. She wants to keep her close as long as possible. Her sleeping habits aren't helped by the fact that my in-laws (who watch her during the week) pick her up and carry her around when she makes the slightest peep. They won't let her learn to sleep on her own, and I'm outnumbered three-to-one.
On Monday we learned that my wife is pregnant again (through IVF, not surprisingly since we don't sleep together). She plans to sleep with the 1-year-old until she gives birth and then start sleeping with the new baby again, finally putting the toddler in her crib or maybe recruiting my mother-in-law to continue sleeping with her on the floor. My wife insists that this is all completely normal and that everyone she knows does the same thing. I guess a husband and wife sleeping separately for 2 - 3 years is "normal".
To be fair, she grew up in another country in an extremely small one-room home where she had no choice but to sleep with her parents until she was a teenager. She says that because she allegedly sleeps fine now as an adult, there's no problem with it. She (my wife) DOESN'T sleep fine though; she wakes up at 2 or 3 AM every night and can't get back to sleep until 6 or 7.
HELP!
I get various responses when I talk to her about it. Sometimes she insists that our daughter won't sleep in her crib, but she's only tried a handful of times. But she's admitted to the pediatrician and me that she's afraid of our daughter growing up too fast, getting independent, and leaving her. She wants to keep her close as long as possible. Her sleeping habits aren't helped by the fact that my in-laws (who watch her during the week) pick her up and carry her around when she makes the slightest peep. They won't let her learn to sleep on her own, and I'm outnumbered three-to-one.
On Monday we learned that my wife is pregnant again (through IVF, not surprisingly since we don't sleep together). She plans to sleep with the 1-year-old until she gives birth and then start sleeping with the new baby again, finally putting the toddler in her crib or maybe recruiting my mother-in-law to continue sleeping with her on the floor. My wife insists that this is all completely normal and that everyone she knows does the same thing. I guess a husband and wife sleeping separately for 2 - 3 years is "normal".
To be fair, she grew up in another country in an extremely small one-room home where she had no choice but to sleep with her parents until she was a teenager. She says that because she allegedly sleeps fine now as an adult, there's no problem with it. She (my wife) DOESN'T sleep fine though; she wakes up at 2 or 3 AM every night and can't get back to sleep until 6 or 7.
HELP!