My situation is a little weird. I have 2 friends. Daryl and Bertha. He is around 35 and she is around 53. The live in a group home of a dear friend and I have fallen in love with them both. Bertha calls me Mama.
I have no idea exactly what the condition they have is, but mentally they are around 4 or 5. Daryl is scared of animals and insects.. and just about everything new.. but he always wants me to take him somewhere. Bertha is a bigger handful. She wants to go to church, she loves to sing.. loudly!
She blurts out stuff at the wrong time and only laughs when you try to redirect her. Its part of her charm! I want to take them both to church. They keep asking to go. I've gotten Bertha her "church dress" and Daryl conned someone into taking him shopping this week. Now I need to find a church. Here's where I need help.
I attend Mass with my darling.. so a service that is quiet and controlled like that I know Bertha would never be able to make it through. She likes to grab childrens hands, ( not mean, she like to sing to them) , but I'm afraid of what the parents there might react like. She also likes to talk about her "husband" Don Johnson, and the fact she's been pregnant for the last 20 or so years with his baby. I'm concerned about her trying to tell someone her stories during church.
I guess I'm asking for advice on how to go about finding a church that will appreciate their needs and want us there even if a unforunate situation happens, as it most likely will. They are both black, and though looking for a particular color of people has never been my style, I think a mostly black church would help Daryl because he is scared of everything. People that look more like him may be better for him in a new situation. But other than that, I have no idea what to look for or ask for in a church. I don't want to church hop with them, as I think it would be too much for Daryl. So I need to find it before I take them.
Anyone have any ideas here on how to find a perfect place for us?
I have no idea exactly what the condition they have is, but mentally they are around 4 or 5. Daryl is scared of animals and insects.. and just about everything new.. but he always wants me to take him somewhere. Bertha is a bigger handful. She wants to go to church, she loves to sing.. loudly!
She blurts out stuff at the wrong time and only laughs when you try to redirect her. Its part of her charm! I want to take them both to church. They keep asking to go. I've gotten Bertha her "church dress" and Daryl conned someone into taking him shopping this week. Now I need to find a church. Here's where I need help.
I attend Mass with my darling.. so a service that is quiet and controlled like that I know Bertha would never be able to make it through. She likes to grab childrens hands, ( not mean, she like to sing to them) , but I'm afraid of what the parents there might react like. She also likes to talk about her "husband" Don Johnson, and the fact she's been pregnant for the last 20 or so years with his baby. I'm concerned about her trying to tell someone her stories during church.
I guess I'm asking for advice on how to go about finding a church that will appreciate their needs and want us there even if a unforunate situation happens, as it most likely will. They are both black, and though looking for a particular color of people has never been my style, I think a mostly black church would help Daryl because he is scared of everything. People that look more like him may be better for him in a new situation. But other than that, I have no idea what to look for or ask for in a church. I don't want to church hop with them, as I think it would be too much for Daryl. So I need to find it before I take them.
Anyone have any ideas here on how to find a perfect place for us?