Cole 12 is frightened of mice. I guess he may get it from his mom. But I am trying to get him to "man up" on this. So I purchased some easy set: no touch to remove the mouse traps.
I should say at our house we do "Discipline mice with death" some of you probably may recommend that I talk to the mouse to identify the root cause of him eating holes in the wall. But like my parents before me I think death is just a more significant lesson for the mouse.
Anyway. The mouse has kinda become a big thing for me for a several reasons.
#1 sooner or later he is going to be a young man and should be able to discard a mouse.
#2 He is much bigger than a mouse
#3 He needs to keep food out of his room/basement game area.
#4 Since I travel for work I do not want the mouse decomposing until I return home.
So I kinda tried to force the issue today. Many excuses: some :I hate you dad's" and some disrespect. I finally gave in and discarded the mouse myself.
Then did both some active listening. Which in my opinion were a bunch of lame excuses (but I heard him). And a little lecturing about how I don't care if he ever touches a mouse. That he is soon to be a young man. Shouldn't be scared of mice. And will someday be on his own. And just leaving them sit only makes the job worse. The long and short of the lecture was that I was trying to help him. And not trying to scare or make him uncomfortable. Its a necessary thing that no one really wants to do. But needs done.
I know there are traps that enclose the mouse: give the mouse a mouse time out and allow for relocation. I feel this needs to be overcome and not avoided.
My feeling was that if I could get him to drop the mouse in the trash bag he would see it is a non event and become desensitized to the dead mouse and less afraid of live ones. And while this may sound sexist. I know significantly more women deathly afraid of mice than men. Its kinda one of the crappy gender assigned jobs of the real world.
Now before you ladies jump on me with "I'm not afraid" Its OK I understand its a stereotype. Chloe would have played with the dead mouse for days. probably had it in her mouth (another reason it needs gone immediately)
Looking for opinions on two things.
1# strategy on getting Cole to get rid of the mouse. and resetting the traps. Again easy set. Dont actually touch the mouse or put you fingers in harms way.
#2 (may end up in debate thread) The desire to get our boys to "man up"
I should say at our house we do "Discipline mice with death" some of you probably may recommend that I talk to the mouse to identify the root cause of him eating holes in the wall. But like my parents before me I think death is just a more significant lesson for the mouse.
Anyway. The mouse has kinda become a big thing for me for a several reasons.
#1 sooner or later he is going to be a young man and should be able to discard a mouse.
#2 He is much bigger than a mouse
#3 He needs to keep food out of his room/basement game area.
#4 Since I travel for work I do not want the mouse decomposing until I return home.
So I kinda tried to force the issue today. Many excuses: some :I hate you dad's" and some disrespect. I finally gave in and discarded the mouse myself.
Then did both some active listening. Which in my opinion were a bunch of lame excuses (but I heard him). And a little lecturing about how I don't care if he ever touches a mouse. That he is soon to be a young man. Shouldn't be scared of mice. And will someday be on his own. And just leaving them sit only makes the job worse. The long and short of the lecture was that I was trying to help him. And not trying to scare or make him uncomfortable. Its a necessary thing that no one really wants to do. But needs done.
I know there are traps that enclose the mouse: give the mouse a mouse time out and allow for relocation. I feel this needs to be overcome and not avoided.
My feeling was that if I could get him to drop the mouse in the trash bag he would see it is a non event and become desensitized to the dead mouse and less afraid of live ones. And while this may sound sexist. I know significantly more women deathly afraid of mice than men. Its kinda one of the crappy gender assigned jobs of the real world.
Now before you ladies jump on me with "I'm not afraid" Its OK I understand its a stereotype. Chloe would have played with the dead mouse for days. probably had it in her mouth (another reason it needs gone immediately)
Looking for opinions on two things.
1# strategy on getting Cole to get rid of the mouse. and resetting the traps. Again easy set. Dont actually touch the mouse or put you fingers in harms way.
#2 (may end up in debate thread) The desire to get our boys to "man up"