I need quick help guys. My son has become a bitter and the object of his bitting is me, just me...and the only way he stops is if his father raises his voices. I have tried putting him in time out, walking away, stern talking, and even raising my voice just like DH does. The more I try to stop him from bitting me the funnier he thinks it is. He chases me a round the house and bites hard when I have my back turned or if I can't catch him before he gets to me. I'm the only one he's doing this to and it's making me crazy. Any advice you can give would be great!!! I can't live my life in fear of my toddler...lol
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I hear ya! My LO is a biter. sucks huh? No answers for you, but I will be watching this thread with interest for answers for myself! LOL!
Oh, just a thought.. is he doing it for a reaction? maybe if you just ignored it? But I know how much hurts, so this might be difficult!!
Oh, just a thought.. is he doing it for a reaction? maybe if you just ignored it? But I know how much hurts, so this might be difficult!!
I think it all started because of my reaction actually...lol The first time he did it my back was turned and I didn't know he was there. He bite me on the back of the leg and I let out a huge, suprised, "ouch". He laughed like crazy and then started actually chasing me around the house. Running from him kinda made it a game as well but I had no time to think...he was attacking me and it hurt. I couldn't just stay in one stop and let it happen, ya knowMummyatHome said:
fallon said:I think it all started because of my reaction actually...lol The first time he did it my back was turned and I didn't know he was there. He bite me on the back of the leg and I let out a huge, suprised, "ouch". He laughed like crazy and then started actually chasing me around the house. Running from him kinda made it a game as well but I had no time to think...he was attacking me and it hurt. I couldn't just stay in one stop and let it happen, ya know
That's what happened with my littlest, I started laughing cause it came out of nowhere! My oldest was the WORST, his was always geared towards his sister, he would take chunks out of her, the only way I broke him was by biting back, that was after a really bad bite. But the others I never had to do that with (Thank goodness!) usually if I move them away from me and sternly tell them "no biting, that hurts mommy" turn my back on them and give no interaction for about a minute or two, within time they get the hint and slowly stop biting. The hardest part is waiting it out.
Did you try telling him that it hurts and looking really sad maybe pretending to cry? Lol sounds stupid but SOME kids, not all, react well to guilt trips. Haha. Like ask him "Are you trying to hurt mommy? That's not very nice, mommy loves you". Type of thing.
Mom2Many, lol. I love it, sounds like something my mom would do to get her kids to quit biting. Bite back, show them how it feels! It doesn't feel good! hahahaha
Mom2Many, lol. I love it, sounds like something my mom would do to get her kids to quit biting. Bite back, show them how it feels! It doesn't feel good!
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that's how it started with us and now he actually goes for the skinjrrsmom said:
I would die if he bite another child. He hasn't even attempted to bite his sister and they play constantly. If the biting isn't under control soon he won't be allowed around a lot of other children until we can get a handle onYou could always just try and bite them back, not hard of course. My cousin use to bite my brother all the time, this went on for about a year and they tried everything to stop this but nothing was working. Well, my mom got really tired of it and so once she seen my cousin bite my brother she bit him and he stopped. He never bit my brother or anyone else again. Of course it seems a bit mean but they get over it fast and you're not bitting them hard.
Damien bites when he's mad and what we do to try and get that under control is we tap his mouth and say "No biting!" He usually fusses at that point but he won't bite again for a while
This is horrible and I would never tell a parent to do it. Why would you ever bite a child?Saachi said:
I don't have any experience with this and I honestly don't know what I would do but I don't agree with biting a child. Then again I don't believe that violence is a good way to solve anything. There's got to be another way. Maybe seek help from a child psychologist or consult your local library. There's just got to be another way.
I understand your thinking here but I wanted to say that Logan actually stopped biting me right after our dog bit him for pulling her tailDadu2004 said:
Not hard enough to even leave a mark but it let him know he didn't like it and should probably stop doing it. I don't think I would have biten him myself but he clearly had no idea what it felt like...now he does and biting is no longer a problem in our house
Yes, but a dog biting is much different than a parent biting. A dog would be expected to act that way...fortunately, we're much more evolved than this.
fallon said:I understand your thinking here but I wanted to say that Logan actually stopped biting me right after our dog bit him for pulling her tail
Sometimes God intervenes when necessary.
I don't think it's that big of a deal guys. It's just showing a kid what something feels like so they can practice empathy. How can you consider how your actions affect somebody if you don't know what affect they really have? Nobody left a bruise or broke skin, probably not even a red mark. Hardly even a pinch, but with teeth. Just a harmless little bite after nothing else "tame" works. No reason to freak out like somebody's being a barbarian or abusing a child. Sometimes a one year old doesn't listen to reason (actually, almost never). Sometimes you have to show them in an unpleasant yet harmless manner. Any parent would tell you that a toddler understands more of what he is shown than what he is told. This is not a big deal, and although it wouldn't be my first course of action, I'd probably do it. I certainly wouldn't call it horrible. And most definitely wouldn't refer to it as violence. Sometimes the people on this forum talk like they're perfect and they know all the answers, and the minute something a little bit off comes up it's a really big deal. So? Don't do it if you don't feel right about it. Worked for them!