I have a 4 year old daughter that is displaying a very strange behavior. She will take her hands or sometimes press herself against a table or other solid object, in a sort of masterbation behavior. She will press down just above her groin very hard and stiffen her entire body. It is so intense that she causes herself to sweat and sometimes even drool. This has been happening for a few months.
Her mother and I are divorced. I have been able to get the behavior under control in my household, and she knows it's unacceptable behavior. She will not do this in my house. She will constantly do it at her mom's house. Her mom has tried everything: being soft and kind, asking why she does it, distracting her, yelling, spanking, and I have gone over there and talked to our daughter to let her know that it's unacceptable at her mother's house as well. Nothing has worked.
We've had our daughter into the doctor for an external exam, and there's no sign of molestation. We've had her into a urologist for testing, and all comes back fine. The urologist says that it's normal behavior and not to worry about it, that she'll grow out of it...her general doctor isn't so sure.
As far a general behavior, she is much better behaved at my house than at her mother's. At her mom's she will be disrespectful and irritating. At my house, I see much less of bad behavior. There is an older brother at her mom's house as well, who is now 8.
We're at our wits end here on what to do about this strange behavior at her mother's home and need some advice.
Her mother and I are divorced. I have been able to get the behavior under control in my household, and she knows it's unacceptable behavior. She will not do this in my house. She will constantly do it at her mom's house. Her mom has tried everything: being soft and kind, asking why she does it, distracting her, yelling, spanking, and I have gone over there and talked to our daughter to let her know that it's unacceptable at her mother's house as well. Nothing has worked.
We've had our daughter into the doctor for an external exam, and there's no sign of molestation. We've had her into a urologist for testing, and all comes back fine. The urologist says that it's normal behavior and not to worry about it, that she'll grow out of it...her general doctor isn't so sure.
As far a general behavior, she is much better behaved at my house than at her mother's. At her mom's she will be disrespectful and irritating. At my house, I see much less of bad behavior. There is an older brother at her mom's house as well, who is now 8.
We're at our wits end here on what to do about this strange behavior at her mother's home and need some advice.