Hi All:
first time coming back to this forums after a while , parenting is going good, think there is a more issue with us as the wife and the husband than actual parenting, but being parents have alot to do with the issue, so they do inter relate I am not sure if this place is for this kind of discussion,
we been married for about 7 years, one 4.5 yr son and one 5 months old girl just earlier this year, we were worried the second child is going to be tough while still taking care of the son but hated the feeling we would regrat not having a second child:skeptical:
my wife always refuse to work in the USA, not because she doesnt have good enough education or never worked before, i think it has something to do with her mother being worked hard all mom's life while dad always lost money play with stocks, her mom pass away the year our son was born,
my wife has been very controlling at home, alot times we disagreed when it comes to teach our son stuff, some times I would say something to my son and my wife would disagree with me in front of my son, thought after my firce objection she has stopped doing that
she watches our expenses carefully like all good wife does, since we have the kids and moved to a new state with higher living standard and rent, thats more of the case, I dont blame her, but some times I feel we got into all this pressure of watch our expenses because she is trying to cover up the her part of the contribution by not willing to work (or not able to work for her specific reason for this matter), true she contribute to this family alot, some times I would say more than herself can handle emotionally perhaps, it would probably have cost more if she has gone out to work (childcare and stuff some might not able to do when she is not home), so how is one deal with this kind of spouse
we are so conservative (not saying we should not ever, but ...)
we dont go out much, we never have someone babysit our children and go somewhere else, I am afraid to buy her things like regular couple might do life is just very boring, I am not saying parenting life should be careless and exciting all the time ... but again ...
thanks for your advise in advance
JJK
first time coming back to this forums after a while , parenting is going good, think there is a more issue with us as the wife and the husband than actual parenting, but being parents have alot to do with the issue, so they do inter relate I am not sure if this place is for this kind of discussion,
we been married for about 7 years, one 4.5 yr son and one 5 months old girl just earlier this year, we were worried the second child is going to be tough while still taking care of the son but hated the feeling we would regrat not having a second child:skeptical:
my wife always refuse to work in the USA, not because she doesnt have good enough education or never worked before, i think it has something to do with her mother being worked hard all mom's life while dad always lost money play with stocks, her mom pass away the year our son was born,
my wife has been very controlling at home, alot times we disagreed when it comes to teach our son stuff, some times I would say something to my son and my wife would disagree with me in front of my son, thought after my firce objection she has stopped doing that
she watches our expenses carefully like all good wife does, since we have the kids and moved to a new state with higher living standard and rent, thats more of the case, I dont blame her, but some times I feel we got into all this pressure of watch our expenses because she is trying to cover up the her part of the contribution by not willing to work (or not able to work for her specific reason for this matter), true she contribute to this family alot, some times I would say more than herself can handle emotionally perhaps, it would probably have cost more if she has gone out to work (childcare and stuff some might not able to do when she is not home), so how is one deal with this kind of spouse
we are so conservative (not saying we should not ever, but ...)
we dont go out much, we never have someone babysit our children and go somewhere else, I am afraid to buy her things like regular couple might do life is just very boring, I am not saying parenting life should be careless and exciting all the time ... but again ...
thanks for your advise in advance
JJK