<t>I’m really interested in the ways that parents determine and enforce logical, appropriate consequences for extreme behavior. My husband and I really like the Love and Logic approach -- we have firm rules and boundaries and our daughter (5) knows the consequences for stepping outside of them. Most of the time. When she tantrums sometimes, she just completely loses control. <br/>
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Yesterday evening we were coming home from a fun event she didn’t want to leave (cue tantrum) and she unbuckled her car seat and opened the car door! In traffic! I pulled over immediately and went around to have a talk/buckle her back in and she just absolutely attacked my face, leaving me bleeding in half a dozen spots. I was so angry that I couldn’t think straight so I just closed the car door to let her scream it out, and called my husband. He came in the other car to take over and I went home. <br/>
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The logical consequence seems to be that if she can’t be safe in the car, she can’t ride in the car. (Right? Other ideas appreciated!) So this morning we walked to school together, about 2.5 miles along a noisy road. We talked about how this is the choice she made last night through her actions. Well, I talked about it at least. <br/>
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We really need to nip this in the bud so I would appreciate any insight. What are some logical consequence ideas for hurting someone, and for putting herself in danger? We don't want to flip out and give her a big reaction, but we can't minimize it. Her behavior is really dangerous. <br/>
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Thanks!</t>
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Yesterday evening we were coming home from a fun event she didn’t want to leave (cue tantrum) and she unbuckled her car seat and opened the car door! In traffic! I pulled over immediately and went around to have a talk/buckle her back in and she just absolutely attacked my face, leaving me bleeding in half a dozen spots. I was so angry that I couldn’t think straight so I just closed the car door to let her scream it out, and called my husband. He came in the other car to take over and I went home. <br/>
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The logical consequence seems to be that if she can’t be safe in the car, she can’t ride in the car. (Right? Other ideas appreciated!) So this morning we walked to school together, about 2.5 miles along a noisy road. We talked about how this is the choice she made last night through her actions. Well, I talked about it at least. <br/>
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We really need to nip this in the bud so I would appreciate any insight. What are some logical consequence ideas for hurting someone, and for putting herself in danger? We don't want to flip out and give her a big reaction, but we can't minimize it. Her behavior is really dangerous. <br/>
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Thanks!</t>