Hello
My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We have a 7 year old boy, ( my step son ) and a 3 year old daughter that's both of ours.
Lately I have been feeling like no matter what I do , I'm just "Adam" to my step son . His biological father gets him every other weekend .. Of which my wife has to deliver him to him ... 2 hours away and 99% of the time has to go pick him up. His father barely makes any effort and he still looks at him as father of the year.
I try everyday to be the best father I can be for him .. And it never seems like it's enough .
He was 1 when my wife and I got married , and I have been there for him every single day since .. and I'm still just " the guy who pays the bills "
My step son has even stated " my dad says your not my dad..." So I feel like his father is undermining everything I do, even though I'm the one that has him and cares for him 99% of the time .
Am I being unreasonable that I would just like some respect and gratitude for everything I do for him ?
I could go on and on with examples.. Which I'm sure I will at some point .. But this seems like a good jumping off point .
Any advice would be amazing !
My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We have a 7 year old boy, ( my step son ) and a 3 year old daughter that's both of ours.
Lately I have been feeling like no matter what I do , I'm just "Adam" to my step son . His biological father gets him every other weekend .. Of which my wife has to deliver him to him ... 2 hours away and 99% of the time has to go pick him up. His father barely makes any effort and he still looks at him as father of the year.
I try everyday to be the best father I can be for him .. And it never seems like it's enough .
He was 1 when my wife and I got married , and I have been there for him every single day since .. and I'm still just " the guy who pays the bills "
My step son has even stated " my dad says your not my dad..." So I feel like his father is undermining everything I do, even though I'm the one that has him and cares for him 99% of the time .
Am I being unreasonable that I would just like some respect and gratitude for everything I do for him ?
I could go on and on with examples.. Which I'm sure I will at some point .. But this seems like a good jumping off point .
Any advice would be amazing !