my neighbor is doing that with her daughter. her daughter is fine with it except for the fact she has caught on she can play the parents.
When she tries to play the parents it usually makes her parents mad and then she has loyalty issues.
the important thing to remember is do not cut down the other parent or the child thinks its their fault. they think that since they are a part of both you that any insults done to the parent is an insult to them. they will always think they got both of your worse quality's.
My state has an agreement packet for situations like this and you go through and check it off to your visiting agreement. it also has suggested ages and the changes at different ages.
This is the one I found most helpful
http://www.state.ak.us/courts/forms/dr-475.pdf
I do not know if these are any good or not but they were advised
www.uptoparents.org/[/URL].
www.whileweheal.org/[/URL].
they could be bull though I don't know.
i noticed more was posted while I was writing.
My daughter who lives with her mom during the summer knows she has two homes with two different rules and two different set-ups and her mother has moved alot. She is fine with it. She looks forward to seeing her mom just as much as she looks forward to coming home.