Hello,
I have been a step mom for 2 years now. My step son is 2 and a half and very stubborn. A little background, his mom held him all the time since he was born until he was about 6 months. Every time he would cry, she gave him a bottle. No limit to the bottles, didn't want to hear him cry. His mom and my husband split when he was 6 months old. There was a custody battle for him and he stayed with my husband and his parents while it was happening. My husband moved in with me when Logan was about 9 months old to get out from his parents control and make a better life for him and his son. His mother, treated her grandson as her SON, trying to take over the control of him 100% percent. Every time he would cry or demand something, she would give it to him and he was never forced to cry out his frustrations or told no. He was developmentally behind as of then and still is slightly today.
My husband and I have been working for the last two years to get my step son under control. He has a very bad attitude and temper. The doctors have said it is the normal terrible two's. But as this has progressed, a lot of family members and the daycare, have noticed he has a very bad temper and will scream until he gets something he wants.
We have a major issue with the cup. He wants to drink all day long. The doctor has told us what they recommend we give him daily. It is never enough. He throws tantrum after tantrum if we do not give it to him. And if we turn our back, he will find any type of cup to drink out of. He was coming so far and now he is regressing.
We have tried the time out in the corner, he wont stay there. Unless we stand over him. We have tried time out in his room. For example, I put him in his room for time out and told him when he was quiet, he could come out. He proceeded to scream at the top of his lungs for 3.5 hours....
He is so stubborn and will not give up until he exhausts himself. I have talked to other mothers who have witnessed some of his tantrums and they have told me this is unusual, atleast for their experience. I feel like I am at my limit.
We do have full custody, the birth mother is not involved at all.
I love my husband and I love my step son. I just feel like I am drowning. The hours my husband works are long, so I primarily take care of the little boy. I don't mind doing that at all. I don't want to come across as that. But I feel I do not know what to do anymore. I have never had any children of my own. I am jumping in and am brand new to this.
Does anyone have any advice? I feel like my marriage is really having issues, I am stressed all the time, and really hate being at home most of the time now. And I feel like I am getting to the point that I am throwing my hands up and two, wondering if I am a good mom or should have any more children.
I would appreciate any comments or help anyone can provide. Please help!
I have been a step mom for 2 years now. My step son is 2 and a half and very stubborn. A little background, his mom held him all the time since he was born until he was about 6 months. Every time he would cry, she gave him a bottle. No limit to the bottles, didn't want to hear him cry. His mom and my husband split when he was 6 months old. There was a custody battle for him and he stayed with my husband and his parents while it was happening. My husband moved in with me when Logan was about 9 months old to get out from his parents control and make a better life for him and his son. His mother, treated her grandson as her SON, trying to take over the control of him 100% percent. Every time he would cry or demand something, she would give it to him and he was never forced to cry out his frustrations or told no. He was developmentally behind as of then and still is slightly today.
My husband and I have been working for the last two years to get my step son under control. He has a very bad attitude and temper. The doctors have said it is the normal terrible two's. But as this has progressed, a lot of family members and the daycare, have noticed he has a very bad temper and will scream until he gets something he wants.
We have a major issue with the cup. He wants to drink all day long. The doctor has told us what they recommend we give him daily. It is never enough. He throws tantrum after tantrum if we do not give it to him. And if we turn our back, he will find any type of cup to drink out of. He was coming so far and now he is regressing.
We have tried the time out in the corner, he wont stay there. Unless we stand over him. We have tried time out in his room. For example, I put him in his room for time out and told him when he was quiet, he could come out. He proceeded to scream at the top of his lungs for 3.5 hours....
He is so stubborn and will not give up until he exhausts himself. I have talked to other mothers who have witnessed some of his tantrums and they have told me this is unusual, atleast for their experience. I feel like I am at my limit.
We do have full custody, the birth mother is not involved at all.
I love my husband and I love my step son. I just feel like I am drowning. The hours my husband works are long, so I primarily take care of the little boy. I don't mind doing that at all. I don't want to come across as that. But I feel I do not know what to do anymore. I have never had any children of my own. I am jumping in and am brand new to this.
Does anyone have any advice? I feel like my marriage is really having issues, I am stressed all the time, and really hate being at home most of the time now. And I feel like I am getting to the point that I am throwing my hands up and two, wondering if I am a good mom or should have any more children.
I would appreciate any comments or help anyone can provide. Please help!