I have a friend who is a lady in her 40's. She has 2 children. However, I do not agree with how she is parenting her children. When her kids come home from school, she is usually out shopping. The children have to wait out side in all kinds of bad weather until she gets home from her shopping excursions. This leaves them little time for homework. She always complains how they do nothing around the house, yet doesnt assign them any chores. She does not care about her kids grades. She only brings up bad grades if they get into an argument and her daughter accuses her of being a bad mother, then the mother retaliates by saying "well look at how bad your grades are. All your teachers complain about you". When it is only one or 2 teachers who have made complaints about the daughters listening skills.
Instead of preparing dinner on time, the mother watches cartoons with her son throughout the day. When the daughter says that she cant concentrate on her homework the mother gets mad at the DAUGHTER. These children dont have a parent who enforces quiet time after school so the kids can get their homework done. The mother cant wait to have the daughter get done with her homework for some reason. Their is nobody in their lives who monitors if they do their homework or not. She does monitor her younger elementary aged sons homework progress but not her daughter's who is in high school and will be going to college in a couple of years. SHe cares about her daughters looks and hygeine a lot however. Telling the daughter exactly what to wear and what not to wear.
This woman does not make dinner on time. Thinks there is nothing wrong with this. She also tells her daughter to sleep in and miss her first 2 classes almost every other day b/c children "need their sleep".
What do I do to get this woman to understand?
Instead of preparing dinner on time, the mother watches cartoons with her son throughout the day. When the daughter says that she cant concentrate on her homework the mother gets mad at the DAUGHTER. These children dont have a parent who enforces quiet time after school so the kids can get their homework done. The mother cant wait to have the daughter get done with her homework for some reason. Their is nobody in their lives who monitors if they do their homework or not. She does monitor her younger elementary aged sons homework progress but not her daughter's who is in high school and will be going to college in a couple of years. SHe cares about her daughters looks and hygeine a lot however. Telling the daughter exactly what to wear and what not to wear.
This woman does not make dinner on time. Thinks there is nothing wrong with this. She also tells her daughter to sleep in and miss her first 2 classes almost every other day b/c children "need their sleep".
What do I do to get this woman to understand?