I've got a four year old boy and a two year old girl. I have my baths with them each night because a: it saves water and b: it saves time and c: I get to spend time with the kids each night.
huh.musicmom said:Is the mother NOT around where she can not bathe her own child? I think it's odd he calls it "fun time".
maybe... here's a whacky thought... maybe this man is a Responsible Man who takes his role as a partner to this kid's mother very seriously... maybe he's one of those strange beings which are the opposite of the Deadbeat Boyfriend.musicmom said:Is the mother NOT around where she can not bathe her own child? I think it's odd he calls it "fun time".
my advice: let your girlfriend's friend know that you're grateful that they feel they can be open and honest with their ridiculous notions of how you should run the domestic duties of your own private life.lbartowski said:My girlfriend and her 4 year old daughter from a previous marriage have been living with me for a year (I know.....not the ideal situation, but that's the way it goes). The little girl looks forward to me giving her a bath and I feel like its a way for us to bond. I don't get in the bath with her. To me it seems perfectly normal and we are both totally comfortable with it. I shampoo her hair and scrub her body (not her genitals) with soap....but a friend of my girlfriend (not exactly an ideal parent in my opinion) claims that its wrong for a male to give a 4 yr old female a bath. Its absolutely not a sexual thing for me!! Its just a fun thing we do and we get clean in the process. Any thoughts????
You REALLY need a xanax. My children take baths and I'm sure they have fun, I'm just not in there having "fun" with them or in the tub like you are with your children, that's just twisted and disturbing.evilbrent said:huh.
well I'd hate to be your kid then, if baths aren't fun in your house.
do you have ANY toys in your bath tub?
You know... they have these things called BUBBLES which I hear is sometimes a fun way for kids to get introduced to soap...
... one time.... I even saw my kids PLAYING IN THE BATH!!! Oh the schock! The Horror!
...and you know what's worse????!??! Sometimes I...... JOIN IN!
auauahahghguahghghahguahgughgughaughg!!!!!! We're doooooooooooooooomed.
evilbrent said:huh.
well I'd hate to be your kid then, if baths aren't fun in your house.
do you have ANY toys in your bath tub?
You know... they have these things called BUBBLES which I hear is sometimes a fun way for kids to get introduced to soap...
... one time.... I even saw my kids PLAYING IN THE BATH!!! Oh the schock! The Horror!
...and you know what's worse????!??! Sometimes I...... JOIN IN!
auauahahghguahghghahguahgughgughaughg!!!!!! We're doooooooooooooooomed.
What ever happened to Supermario?Bingo said:I don't see the problem with it.
I only have a problem with pedophiles bathing children. It is no different than me bathing a 4 year old boy. Let's not turn bath time into something sexual and wrong.
As soon as one of the parties (child or adult) feels uncomfortable then it is time to stop.
I remember (very briefly) having that same kind of concern with my son - would I be able to kiss him properly? Would I be comfortable being close, skin to skin with him?Kaytee said:while the pp was a bit sarcastic I have agree. My friends husband bathes with his 2 year old daughter. Of course he doens't like people to know (so don't tell) lol i think that is a wonderful thing that he does it. Heck I barely could get my husband to change our daughters diapers when she was little because he was nervous that she was a girl and he would touch her wrong. Not that he would do something innapropriate but on accident.
I can see how the uneasiness of it can be there. I kept telling my husband, he wouldn;t hurt her, told him how to clean her and all that. Now he is fine with it, of course getting him to change her diaper is not about uneasiness anymore, just about him not wanting to! lolevilbrent said:I remember (very briefly) having that same kind of concern with my son - would I be able to kiss him properly? Would I be comfortable being close, skin to skin with him?
I've been raised perfectly normally - which is to say that I almost NEVER touch another male unless it's to shake hands. I once had a Scottish boss who was quite comfortable putting his hand on my shoulder while looking at my computer screen or (more commonly) grabbing my hand as he gesticulated wildly in some exciting story or other (really, not being sarcastic, his stories were fascinating).
I have also had the same pseudo-concerns about my daughter - the only vagina I've EVER seen in detail up to this point has been my wife's... I remember having to ask the midwife if you have to clean between a girl's labia when you're changing them - how should _I_ know??
I think that nudity and sexuality are totally different things - some of the most sexually intimate moments with my wife have been when we're fully clothed - and the way my son sometimes spends the entire day pantsless (we might as well get a tape-recorder and play "Tali, put your pants back on" as a loop).
But, you raise a good point, sometimes, even if we don't actually (evilly) sexualise these things there's still the fear to be overcome. Usually with reasonableness.
Really?? I think it is odd that you think it is odd.musicmom said:Is the mother NOT around where she can not bathe her own child? I think it's odd he calls it "fun time".