Hello NancyM,
Thank you for your answer and for trusting me enough to want to discuss it with me. I appreciate it, and I mean it.
It's very difficult to discuss this issue as I feel I am waking on eggshells, tip-toeing into a mine field, as each different response is likely to provoke a very strong feelings. Yet, truly, I am not trying to insult anyone.
So I am wondering: is there a way that this topic can be discussed, in an open and honest way? And more to the point, what can I do, if I disagree with what both you and Xero said, to debate it without offending you? I both like you very much, from many exchanges we had in this forum in the past months. No matter how delicately I can put it, or how careful I am, I am not certain that it is even possible for me to suggest USA has weaknesses, at this point, without triggering such a resistance.
Take for example, this:
What makes you think American parents don't teach our children about perspective taking. I call it compassion , consideration, respect, and empathy for others, of course we teach our children that, it's a very basic human need and every good parent teaches that no matter what country.
Well, please re-read what I wrote down.. in <I>
no way</I> did I <I>
ever</I> implied that Americans do not teach perspective taking to their kids
Seriously. I simply made a comparison between the importance of teaching a child the importance of developing the ability to take others point of view into account and I compared that to the 2-3 posters before who said they did not see why they should care about what other countries think of them. I also said that this is good for any countries.
Americans teach this skill to their kids, just like any other parents. It's part of growing up, of maturing.
I am simply saying that America - and believe me, Canada is just as bad - should mature and grow up, and that a part of that is to take what others around you think of you into account.
Now, the problem is, I have a LOT of examples to draw from, but if I start naming them here, it's going to feel like I am doing some USA bashing, and really I don't want to do this. So, perhaps I can respond to your post by taking my own country as an example: I assure you that I do not hold Canada in very high esteem at this point on many issues, there are big weaknesses in Canada and some are similar to what I see with USA.
For instance, take the issue of the Canadian Tar Sands in Alberta.
The VAST MAJORITY of the planet; nearly every single industrialized country in the world, and most of the planet's inhabitants all agree that this is terrible; that it is the #1 polluter on the planet, that it's going to impact on everyone's ability to live on the planet as it is contaminating vast areas of water all the way down to the subterranean lakes, and eradicating bio diversity at a very alarming rate.
Yet do we listen? Nope. Canada went forward with his huge tar sands programs, voided their own Kyoto commitment, received the lemon prize at the next environmental convention and basically took a life changing, planet-size decision all on its own, without even caring for what their neighbor could think of it.
I am not proud of this. In fact, I am ashamed of it. There is no way I can feel patriotic about Canada when I look at this.
Yet I think it is healthy at least to be able to take that hard look and say, hell, when you take such a huge decision, when it impacts so many lives, we should have listened to what other country thinks of us.
Perhaps it's what your reading in your own countries news paper which can tell you anything they want and apparently you'd believe it.
It really isn't that simple.
I am saying that as a citizen of a country, you can only truly understand your own international politics when you read the newspaper of the rest of the world.
An invading country will always present their conquest in a way that looks nice and polished; if you want the truth, you need BOTH to read what is written inside, AND outside your country, about your country.
This is true for ANY and ALL countries in the world.
It's not patriotism that blinds people, it's ignorance and narrow mindedness
To be more precise, what blinds people is the lack of critical thinking.
Ignorance isn't bad - nobody can know everything - unless you refuse to learn. Open mindedness is, I agree, very important.
Patriotism, when it is the result of observing and understanding your countries decisions and approving them, is a great thing. When it <I>
prevents you</I> from taking that hard look at your country's decision, then it <I>
causes</I> narrow-mindedness and lack of critical thinking.
Am I narrow minded? It is certainly possible, as I am far from perfect.
But if you want to state this, I would suggest you offer some examples.
If anyone who says "USA is unwilling to listen to what other countries think of them" is narrow minded, it means that there are at least one or two billions of people narrow minded. Surely you aren't suggesting this?
Now, the fact that patriotism can <I>
also </I>make you strong as an individual and as a nation, I do not deny. I perfectly agree, in fact.
But that's not what is in question here.
Other countries don't know me or my family so how can they perceive me in a negative way and why should I let that impact my life.
Let me be crystal clear.
Nobody cares specifically about you or your family in the rest of the world, Nancy. No offense, really! It's not about you as a single American, or what you think, or do in your family. It's about what your country is doing to the rest of the world, including millions of other families, so that you can continue your own standard of living (and mine, in Canada, too, by the way).
Americans are perfectly aware how some other countries perceive us And as I said before why should we care?
Are you seriously asking?
Seriously?
We really don't care what they think about us, Nicholas because they don't live our lives, it's their problem if they're loose sleep over disliking Americans not ours.
NancyM, with all due respect, when you invade a country and kill over 2 millions of its citizens, you can hardly say it's their problem if they loose sleep over disliking Americans. How about loosing their houses, their children, their families, their lives?
Enough said.