well, i have similar problem,stepsons, 18yo great in school, athlete, good grades, works full time, receives invitation from best colleges in country...
16yo, school? no way, absent every day. sport? no way, smokes and drinks, involved with juvenile court.. one day he will have his own comapny, other day truck driver, and then drug dealer, and other day he will get geed, other day he will finish HS and go to tech college...
his father is to soft with him, and i think thats not good for kids... cause, he knows that father will not fill his promises ( im going to ground you, give me cellphone, no internet)
he kicked 18yo 2 months ago, cause he was such an ass, and yesterday he came back home, cause his father begged him to come back home...
my opinion in every situation is: kids needs to learn on hard way, cause they dont appreciate when you as a parent tell him...
we have parole officer, this is already 2nd, he was in detention, in home detention, consleor, this is already 2nd...
and ive realized, only time he was ok, was, when he was in inhome detention, cause they called every 2 hours, they would come, unannounced on the door...
and actually, he had somebody who had control, who was upon him, and whom he couldn say a word, and who wasnt soft...
well, his father can kick him out cause hes 16, but he doesnt do a thing to improve his behavior...
so, i would tell to mom, same thing as im telling to my soon to be ex hubby, let him kick the wall with his own head! kick her out, after couple of days she will come back home, cause if her bf doesnt have money, well they wont live out of love...
if she finds a job, keep her that way one time, till she realizes, that her bf is taking her money, she will dump him, and eventually come home...
im not mom, but i would do that...
in germany, every kid, who turns 18, and finishes HS can move out
16yo, school? no way, absent every day. sport? no way, smokes and drinks, involved with juvenile court.. one day he will have his own comapny, other day truck driver, and then drug dealer, and other day he will get geed, other day he will finish HS and go to tech college...
his father is to soft with him, and i think thats not good for kids... cause, he knows that father will not fill his promises ( im going to ground you, give me cellphone, no internet)
he kicked 18yo 2 months ago, cause he was such an ass, and yesterday he came back home, cause his father begged him to come back home...
my opinion in every situation is: kids needs to learn on hard way, cause they dont appreciate when you as a parent tell him...
we have parole officer, this is already 2nd, he was in detention, in home detention, consleor, this is already 2nd...
and ive realized, only time he was ok, was, when he was in inhome detention, cause they called every 2 hours, they would come, unannounced on the door...
and actually, he had somebody who had control, who was upon him, and whom he couldn say a word, and who wasnt soft...
well, his father can kick him out cause hes 16, but he doesnt do a thing to improve his behavior...
so, i would tell to mom, same thing as im telling to my soon to be ex hubby, let him kick the wall with his own head! kick her out, after couple of days she will come back home, cause if her bf doesnt have money, well they wont live out of love...
if she finds a job, keep her that way one time, till she realizes, that her bf is taking her money, she will dump him, and eventually come home...
im not mom, but i would do that...
in germany, every kid, who turns 18, and finishes HS can move out