Although this is not about my own child it is regarding people very close to my heart.
My partner comes from a split family household in which his stepfather has been an active participant since the boys were 7yrs and 9yrs (they are 20 and 23 now). Their biological dad is very part-time and unreliable as far as parenting goes and only crops up to contradict their stepdad and mom. For years their mom has tried to remedy this by patching together a better relationship between the three parents.
So the situation is this- my partners brother (the 20yr old) refuses to acknowledge his stepdad as a parent and thinks his biological dad is God. This leads him to mimicking his behaviour which has led to being hurtful, uncaring, arrogant, and with a string of substance abuse problems (alcohol and cocaine). He neglects to take into account anything his stepdad says and creates stories about him. My partner is the complete opposite path in which he understands how hurtful and neglectful his biological dad has been over the years and both values and loves his stepdad and mom.
Does anyone have any experience with this either from a parenting perspective or as a stepchild?
My partner comes from a split family household in which his stepfather has been an active participant since the boys were 7yrs and 9yrs (they are 20 and 23 now). Their biological dad is very part-time and unreliable as far as parenting goes and only crops up to contradict their stepdad and mom. For years their mom has tried to remedy this by patching together a better relationship between the three parents.
So the situation is this- my partners brother (the 20yr old) refuses to acknowledge his stepdad as a parent and thinks his biological dad is God. This leads him to mimicking his behaviour which has led to being hurtful, uncaring, arrogant, and with a string of substance abuse problems (alcohol and cocaine). He neglects to take into account anything his stepdad says and creates stories about him. My partner is the complete opposite path in which he understands how hurtful and neglectful his biological dad has been over the years and both values and loves his stepdad and mom.
Does anyone have any experience with this either from a parenting perspective or as a stepchild?