I am not a parent. I was raised in a loving family. That is my perspective.
I would like opinions on a family situation I am witnessing.
I live in an apartment with a young family above me, parents in their twenties, two children, one in preschool, the other in first grade.
I have had noise complaints about them many times. The first time, I introduced myself to the father and explained the situation. He promptly blamed his children and said there was nothing he could do about it.
PART of the noise is his children, as they allow them to run and jump inside. They run, hit something, fall and cry. Because the parents have no concept of an inside voice, I hear almost everything they say. When the kids fall, they mock them, laugh and call them stupid.
Sometimes for no apparent reason to me, one of the children starts wailing. I use the word wailing because it seems so different than a child crying to me. Sometimes the child wails constantly for over an hour. The parents either ignore this or scream and tell him to shut the F up. I often have to leave when this happens as I simply cannot stand it.
Swearing at the children is a constant. Before bed the other night I heard one ask to be read a bedtime story. The Mother's response was to 'read it the F yourself, you A.H.'
They seem to try to put them to bed around midnight. However, the parents usually stay up until 3-4 am watching comedy specials, laughing it up so loud that neither I, nor the children can sleep. The children repeatedly get up crying and get swore at some more until they return to bed. They leave at about 8:30 in the morning, so they barely get any sleep. (this happens every single day)
During the days when the father is watching the children and the mother is shopping, he plays gangster type music with lyrics about killing police and raping white women. (his wife is white, no less). His children hear it and sometimes I hear them saying the words, but the mother never knows as he shuts it off before she returns.
Speaking of being home, neither parent works. I have no idea how they live here as it's a nice, middle class complex. Yet they afford the rent, buy tons of groceries and have several huge flat screen TVs.
One last thing. The parents now sleep in the same room as the children. Once the children go to sleep they often do 'it.' One time one of the kids even woke up and the Mother screamed at him to back to sleep. They also smoke so heavily at night in that bedroom that I often have to open my windows from what comes through the vent.
Having been raised in a loving home, where I never once even heard a swear word, I find these people deplorable and disgusting. However, what I see on TV and read about online, maybe they are just normal these days??
I have reported these people for noise to the complex and to the police several times. Each time they make life worse for me afterwards. The mother even once stomped on the floor and screamed for an hour that they would do anything they wanted and there was nothing I could do about it.
So, as much as I've liked to call family services, I fear for what will happen afterwards, especially if they don't see anything wrong with the behavior I just described. I have no knowledge that the children are being beat, and they certainly have more food in their apartment than I do.
So, I would greatly appreciate any thoughts on my situation. What would you do?
I would like opinions on a family situation I am witnessing.
I live in an apartment with a young family above me, parents in their twenties, two children, one in preschool, the other in first grade.
I have had noise complaints about them many times. The first time, I introduced myself to the father and explained the situation. He promptly blamed his children and said there was nothing he could do about it.
PART of the noise is his children, as they allow them to run and jump inside. They run, hit something, fall and cry. Because the parents have no concept of an inside voice, I hear almost everything they say. When the kids fall, they mock them, laugh and call them stupid.
Sometimes for no apparent reason to me, one of the children starts wailing. I use the word wailing because it seems so different than a child crying to me. Sometimes the child wails constantly for over an hour. The parents either ignore this or scream and tell him to shut the F up. I often have to leave when this happens as I simply cannot stand it.
Swearing at the children is a constant. Before bed the other night I heard one ask to be read a bedtime story. The Mother's response was to 'read it the F yourself, you A.H.'
They seem to try to put them to bed around midnight. However, the parents usually stay up until 3-4 am watching comedy specials, laughing it up so loud that neither I, nor the children can sleep. The children repeatedly get up crying and get swore at some more until they return to bed. They leave at about 8:30 in the morning, so they barely get any sleep. (this happens every single day)
During the days when the father is watching the children and the mother is shopping, he plays gangster type music with lyrics about killing police and raping white women. (his wife is white, no less). His children hear it and sometimes I hear them saying the words, but the mother never knows as he shuts it off before she returns.
Speaking of being home, neither parent works. I have no idea how they live here as it's a nice, middle class complex. Yet they afford the rent, buy tons of groceries and have several huge flat screen TVs.
One last thing. The parents now sleep in the same room as the children. Once the children go to sleep they often do 'it.' One time one of the kids even woke up and the Mother screamed at him to back to sleep. They also smoke so heavily at night in that bedroom that I often have to open my windows from what comes through the vent.
Having been raised in a loving home, where I never once even heard a swear word, I find these people deplorable and disgusting. However, what I see on TV and read about online, maybe they are just normal these days??
I have reported these people for noise to the complex and to the police several times. Each time they make life worse for me afterwards. The mother even once stomped on the floor and screamed for an hour that they would do anything they wanted and there was nothing I could do about it.
So, as much as I've liked to call family services, I fear for what will happen afterwards, especially if they don't see anything wrong with the behavior I just described. I have no knowledge that the children are being beat, and they certainly have more food in their apartment than I do.
So, I would greatly appreciate any thoughts on my situation. What would you do?