I wondered if anyone feels that they should read their teenagers (15-18 let's say) phone messages? If yes - is it at any time? If no - does that mean if you feel there is something really bad going on that your teen won't tell you, you still won't look?
I understand the trust aspect and personally I really don't want to see what my kids are saying to their friends but...I think if I am worried or have "a reasonable suspicion" that something bad is going on - it is my right as a parent to protect my child using any and all methods. Again - I do not look through my daugthers private things but have, when compelled, read her phone.
Let's face it, teens don't know what is good for them yet and may be wandering into dangerous territory - to ignore a key piece of information that may help them now (even though they might be really annoyed with you) seems almost "head in the sandish". Just my thoughts.
I understand the trust aspect and personally I really don't want to see what my kids are saying to their friends but...I think if I am worried or have "a reasonable suspicion" that something bad is going on - it is my right as a parent to protect my child using any and all methods. Again - I do not look through my daugthers private things but have, when compelled, read her phone.
Let's face it, teens don't know what is good for them yet and may be wandering into dangerous territory - to ignore a key piece of information that may help them now (even though they might be really annoyed with you) seems almost "head in the sandish". Just my thoughts.