My daughter is back in a relationship with a girl. This isn't the issue. The issue is that she is sleeping over at her house, tonight. I'm sure she is in good hands. She wanted to have the sleep over here tonight, but I have to work tomorrow morning and, quite frankly, her girlfriend stinks of b.o., BAD. It's to the point that it lingers on everything. I have to pay to do one load of laundry and it's not cheap in my building, so I don't like her to come over. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I just don't want her to come over unless she has showered, puts on deodorant and everything she is wearing is washed. My daughter asked if she could have the sleep over tomorrow night.
I told her no because she is in a relationship with this girl and I have to make the same rules as I would if she were in relationship with a boy. (Although it wouldn't matter. No sleep overs with boys at all.) But when she asked to sleep over at this girls place I allowed her to. Now I'm thinking, I just contradicted myself. But, really, the whole issue is that the girl stinks and I didn't want her over. The reason that gave to my daughter was a cover-up. But now I'm thinking if this is even a good idea at all that they sleep over at all.
Question to you is, how can I go about letting this girl over and making sure she doesn't stink without being offensive? Talking to her mom is out of the question. She doesn't seem very nice and I don't talk to her much. And, is it right to refuse sleepovers when your child's friend is in a same-sex relationship with them?
I told her no because she is in a relationship with this girl and I have to make the same rules as I would if she were in relationship with a boy. (Although it wouldn't matter. No sleep overs with boys at all.) But when she asked to sleep over at this girls place I allowed her to. Now I'm thinking, I just contradicted myself. But, really, the whole issue is that the girl stinks and I didn't want her over. The reason that gave to my daughter was a cover-up. But now I'm thinking if this is even a good idea at all that they sleep over at all.
Question to you is, how can I go about letting this girl over and making sure she doesn't stink without being offensive? Talking to her mom is out of the question. She doesn't seem very nice and I don't talk to her much. And, is it right to refuse sleepovers when your child's friend is in a same-sex relationship with them?