Sorry for being unclear. I do not think the OP will cause major harm.
I am unhappy when someone insinuates that I am less of a parent because I either do not subscribe to there particular program or teaching. I think like most parents I try to be diligent and research when I can, what I can. Doing the things I feel are best for my kids and family. When I act deliberately. I do so with their best interest in mind.
It is my opinion that even some misguided attempts in doing what is best will come to light as the well intentioned acts they were. As our children mature and understand that there parents wanted the best for their family. And that even parents can make mistakes.
I think a lot of people have had less than ideal upbringing. Overcoming the occasional spanking or misplaced reward without major life altering consequences. My mothers fly swatter cleaning the house program is a good example of this. My dad's several swats to the butt and attempts to bribe me into academic success. While they may not have been ideal approaches to the roadblocks of life. I have no doubt they were sincere and self sacrificing on my behalf.
Frankly it scares me to think that because I have not read every study, gone through every parenting book written. That I will ruin my kids life's. If you don't already know My daughter is Autistic. I am not telling you this to get sympathy but so you can understand the amount of studies, books, blogs, sites, seminars, conventions, I have read and participated in (currently working on the Yale seminar. Yawn). It is overwhelming to me that I would need to do that for everything. And really, <U>I am not sure if I am even capable of doing that.</U> I am exhausted. I am disillusioned by the whole process. Books that contradict books. Studies that contradict studies. Every body has a fix, for a price.
How you got the "Just to be clear, are you saying nothing a parent can do can be detrimental to a child development?" out of any of my posts. I dont know how to answer. I guess the answer would be Yes (hell yes) a parent can be detrimental to a child's development. Will a well intentioned parent who always tries to do whats best. Who puts in the time and the work to really be a good parent be taken to task for not being perfect? I suppose. But I am not happy with that answer.
Maybe I am just taking out my aggravation on this thread.
I am unhappy when someone insinuates that I am less of a parent because I either do not subscribe to there particular program or teaching. I think like most parents I try to be diligent and research when I can, what I can. Doing the things I feel are best for my kids and family. When I act deliberately. I do so with their best interest in mind.
It is my opinion that even some misguided attempts in doing what is best will come to light as the well intentioned acts they were. As our children mature and understand that there parents wanted the best for their family. And that even parents can make mistakes.
I think a lot of people have had less than ideal upbringing. Overcoming the occasional spanking or misplaced reward without major life altering consequences. My mothers fly swatter cleaning the house program is a good example of this. My dad's several swats to the butt and attempts to bribe me into academic success. While they may not have been ideal approaches to the roadblocks of life. I have no doubt they were sincere and self sacrificing on my behalf.
Frankly it scares me to think that because I have not read every study, gone through every parenting book written. That I will ruin my kids life's. If you don't already know My daughter is Autistic. I am not telling you this to get sympathy but so you can understand the amount of studies, books, blogs, sites, seminars, conventions, I have read and participated in (currently working on the Yale seminar. Yawn). It is overwhelming to me that I would need to do that for everything. And really, <U>I am not sure if I am even capable of doing that.</U> I am exhausted. I am disillusioned by the whole process. Books that contradict books. Studies that contradict studies. Every body has a fix, for a price.
How you got the "Just to be clear, are you saying nothing a parent can do can be detrimental to a child development?" out of any of my posts. I dont know how to answer. I guess the answer would be Yes (hell yes) a parent can be detrimental to a child's development. Will a well intentioned parent who always tries to do whats best. Who puts in the time and the work to really be a good parent be taken to task for not being perfect? I suppose. But I am not happy with that answer.
Maybe I am just taking out my aggravation on this thread.