Kaytee said:Kinda like do parnts of ugly children, know they have ugly children? My guess is no
ha...I totally agreeFooserX said:Isn't it funny how it seems like common sense not to allow one's child to be disrespectful...yet so often we run across kids who's parents are oblivious to it.
It's almost like...they don't have the parenting skills or strength to discipline their kids, so everyone else has to suffer with them.
Kaytee said:oh please! Of course my child is cuter then everyone's! And I would hope that you think your child is cuter then everyone's as well!! That is just how parents are. If you don' think your child is the best, funniest, cutest, child out there then you are nuts!
Wanted to add: Just like men should think their wives are the most beautiful woman they have ever seen and the same for woman
sure is...lolmusicmom said:Yea I've seen where husbands will talk so highly of their wives and wives of their husbands like they are so nice looking and then you see them and think "who hit you with the ugly stick, my gawd!!"
On rare occasion I've seen an ugly child but I would not tell a parent that. lol They are all precious in their own way. I try to look at adults in the same light. That's a task
OMG my thoughts exactly! Don't get me wrong I love hearing that my kids are well behaved but it's sad that there is mild shock from people when they say that because so many kids nowadays are disrespectful brats.FooserX said:Isn't it funny how it seems like common sense not to allow one's child to be disrespectful...yet so often we run across kids who's parents are oblivious to it.
It's almost like...they don't have the parenting skills or strength to discipline their kids, so everyone else has to suffer with them.
tell the truth... sometimes, when you're at the park with your family or friends of the family... secretly, very secretly... because you love them all very much... secretly you're happy to see your sister-in-law struggling with a tantrumming kid.jenilouise said:OMG my thoughts exactly! Don't get me wrong I love hearing that my kids are well behaved but it's sad that there is mild shock from people when they say that because so many kids nowadays are disrespectful brats.
Actually I'd probably try to help her LOL!evilbrent said:tell the truth... sometimes, when you're at the park with your family or friends of the family... secretly, very secretly... because you love them all very much... secretly you're happy to see your sister-in-law struggling with a tantrumming kid.
secretly.
it means that she's not so perfect after all.
secretly.
Honestly I think the point is that, as a parent, you should adopt an attitude of loving support of your child's own self-esteem, rather than seeing yourself as the source of your kid's self-esteem. When it boils right down to it, from the very beginning, it ought to matter more what _I_ think of myself than what _anyone_ else thinks of me. Even my parents.Ari2 said:It seems the OP is in complete disagreement with the mother's parenting philosophy and is uncomfortable because of this. Further, she doesn't seem too wild about the child. IMO she needs to quit. If the babysitter can't abide by the decisions of the parent, the situation will not work. It doesn't matter who is "right" or not. Short of abuse or neglect, the mother has the right to raise her child as she sees fit. If a babysitter is in conflict over childrearing decisions, she needs to find another job that is more in accords with her beliefs.
I disagree with the "limit praise" philosophy like that of Alfie Kohn. I understand the point, but it doesn't add up to me. If I had a babysitter who was upset by the fact I do praise my kids, I would not spend a whole lot of time listening to the criticism. That is not why I would hire a babysitter and not what I would want from a babysitter.
I don't think hiring a babysitter is hiring someone to raise your child. Everyone needs a break or has adult-only appointments (sorry, but my toddlers are not invited to my annual exam). Needing to work is a separate issue as the OP calls herself a babysitter and not a nanny, but I don't see most nannies as raising their charges. The parents still do this, even if they cannot be present 100% of the time.evilbrent said:I think there's a real sad point in all this: this woman wants to raise her child - she's clearly (perhaps misguided by a few hippy books on the importance of free-will) passionate about parenting... she WANTS to raise her child but the sad thing is that she has to hire someone to do it for her.
I honestly think that it's sad that so much of our parenting is being outsourced these days.