What do you do when both parents are so burned out? My husband and I lately all we've been wanting to do is sleep. And Oliver has been acting up quite a bit. We had a date night two weeks ago which I thought would replenish us but we're both just moping around the house trying to put on a happy face for Oliver. Is this something that all parents go through? My husband asked me yesterday if it makes him a bad person if somedays he doesn't want to be a parent.
Two burned out parents....
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We all get burned out every now and then! Being a parent is very hard work! I would suggest not a date night, but a small vacation. Find a family member to watch your child for a couple of days, and get away! It will re-energize you like you won't believe!
I would probably try to take a touch more than 1 day...try to take a couple. Maybe go to the amusement park, then take a day at a state lodge or someplace secluded where you can get away from the daily grind of the world.
It's up to you if you need something sooner...The end of June isn't that far away, but if you need something now, do it!
It's up to you if you need something sooner...The end of June isn't that far away, but if you need something now, do it!
I honestly don't know why he is the way he is with Oliver. I think he still lacks confidence. He gets annoyed by Oliver very quickly and that leads me to get even more frustrated. Yesterday I was mad at him because I felt like he was punishing me for going out the night before and having fun. I encourage him to get out and have fun but he'd rather sit on the couch and sleep and read comic books. I want him to go out and have fun because I know that I NEED to have fun. I encourage him to do things with Oliver like go the children's museum, go for walks, get outside and play. But he doesn't want to do those things. I dont' think he understands that Oliver needs activity. Oliver doesn't want to sit around the house and watch television. He's a very active boy.FooserX said:Why is your husband even burned out when he's not even doing anything?
Maybe the weekend that we go to the amusement park, my parents can watch him for two days. I can definitely ask her. But is that soon enough, I don't know.sarushjr said:
I have to mention also that I've been struggling with issues myself. Being a parent has been a huge trigger for me, especially when Oliver acts out. There are things that I've held inside since I was a child that need to be dealt with and it is my problem that I haven't dealt with them because I'm too afraid. But I keep getting triggered and I think that's what burns me out.
Yeah, your husband needs to understand that you can't park a 2 year old in front of a TV all day.
In his defense, however, his relaxation may be to sit on the couch and read comic books. I'm not much of a go-out type of person myself...i'd rather be at home relaxing.
In his defense, however, his relaxation may be to sit on the couch and read comic books. I'm not much of a go-out type of person myself...i'd rather be at home relaxing.
Maybe you should dye your hair, and pretend to be another girl? Can you speak in any accents?
What happens if you just make plans to do stuff? Won't he go along? Maybe there's some movie you could rent about a dad who ignores his kid, and then misses out on his life...lol...then he could learn to appreciate the time he has with him now.
What happens if you just make plans to do stuff? Won't he go along? Maybe there's some movie you could rent about a dad who ignores his kid, and then misses out on his life...lol...then he could learn to appreciate the time he has with him now.
It sounds to me that you need to get into some personal counseling. If you don't deal with these things that are buried inside of you, you're eventually going to explode and let it out on someone who doesn't deserve it. You need to be right within your self first before you can fully take care of someone else.
But, don't feel bad about getting burned out ...it's natural. You're working very hard raising that little boy.
But, don't feel bad about getting burned out ...it's natural. You're working very hard raising that little boy.