Ive been tossing up whether to post this or not, given the outcome of the two threads ive seen that relate to homosexuality, but I really would like an outside opinion on this and would really like to ask everyone to see past the issue of gender and onto the bigger picture.
For the past 2 and a half years Dita has had a steady girlfriend, Violet, Violet has become very much a part of our family, we all accept her and Dita is accepted by her family. She is currently doing her last year of high school, like Dita, only at a different school, she has already started her univesity applications for next year.
In 3 months Violet's parents are going on an "around the world in 5 years" trip. They will just be travelling and holidaying for 5 years. They have given Violet 2 options
1. Come with them
2. Stay at home (as she is 18) however they are selling their house and she will need to pay for her own roof over her head
She dosent see going with them as an option, because that puts 5 years between where she is now and the completion of her VCE, and starting university (after all, she has to be at school to graduate high school, home schooling dosent count for squat here, so she would have to come back after the 5 years and complete her last 2 terms, in order to go to university) she is 18, but she's in school full time, there is no way she can afford her own rent, bills and food, while in high school.
She has no family willing to take her in (her only living grandparent is in respite care and she dosent really know any other relatives, she knows there are some somewhere, but she dosent know them) and none of her friends are willing to take her in.
Now, everyone in our household has jumped at this and gone "SHE SHOULD LIVE HERE SHE'S HERE HALF OF HER SPARE TIME ANYWAY" and of course, I would love to have her here, she's a lovely, responsible girl, and the last thing I want is for her to throw her education away (she wants to be a paediatric surgeon) just to be able to afford somewhere to live.
Whats preventing this from happening though is the pressure that this is going to put onto Dita and Violet. Violet's made it very clear that this will only be until the end of this year and she will move into student accomodation at university, but in the end, its a teenage relationship, which obviously makes it more unpredictable than an adult one. They will end up spending virtually all of their non-school and work time together as we dont have a spare room (and even if we did, I dont think they'd take that as an option really ) they dont have full out fights, but they do bicker, and I think what prevents that from turning into a fight is the ability to go home to seperate houses and cool down.
I dont think their relationship is going to end soon, but on the off chance that it does, im concearned about what we would do with both of them living here. By the same token, were pretty much her last chance here, if we dont put her up, she drops out of school and gets a full time job to support herself, and I dont want to just put a halt on her future based on a "what if"
Its like, 90% of me says yes, but that annoying little nagging 10% wont go away.
(Meanwhile, im beyond words furious at her parents for putting her in that situation, she was always under the impression that this huge round the world trip wouldnt happen until she was at uni, but for them to just leave 6 months before she graduates high school is so unfair on her, they couldnt have waited 6 more months?)
For the past 2 and a half years Dita has had a steady girlfriend, Violet, Violet has become very much a part of our family, we all accept her and Dita is accepted by her family. She is currently doing her last year of high school, like Dita, only at a different school, she has already started her univesity applications for next year.
In 3 months Violet's parents are going on an "around the world in 5 years" trip. They will just be travelling and holidaying for 5 years. They have given Violet 2 options
1. Come with them
2. Stay at home (as she is 18) however they are selling their house and she will need to pay for her own roof over her head
She dosent see going with them as an option, because that puts 5 years between where she is now and the completion of her VCE, and starting university (after all, she has to be at school to graduate high school, home schooling dosent count for squat here, so she would have to come back after the 5 years and complete her last 2 terms, in order to go to university) she is 18, but she's in school full time, there is no way she can afford her own rent, bills and food, while in high school.
She has no family willing to take her in (her only living grandparent is in respite care and she dosent really know any other relatives, she knows there are some somewhere, but she dosent know them) and none of her friends are willing to take her in.
Now, everyone in our household has jumped at this and gone "SHE SHOULD LIVE HERE SHE'S HERE HALF OF HER SPARE TIME ANYWAY" and of course, I would love to have her here, she's a lovely, responsible girl, and the last thing I want is for her to throw her education away (she wants to be a paediatric surgeon) just to be able to afford somewhere to live.
Whats preventing this from happening though is the pressure that this is going to put onto Dita and Violet. Violet's made it very clear that this will only be until the end of this year and she will move into student accomodation at university, but in the end, its a teenage relationship, which obviously makes it more unpredictable than an adult one. They will end up spending virtually all of their non-school and work time together as we dont have a spare room (and even if we did, I dont think they'd take that as an option really ) they dont have full out fights, but they do bicker, and I think what prevents that from turning into a fight is the ability to go home to seperate houses and cool down.
I dont think their relationship is going to end soon, but on the off chance that it does, im concearned about what we would do with both of them living here. By the same token, were pretty much her last chance here, if we dont put her up, she drops out of school and gets a full time job to support herself, and I dont want to just put a halt on her future based on a "what if"
Its like, 90% of me says yes, but that annoying little nagging 10% wont go away.
(Meanwhile, im beyond words furious at her parents for putting her in that situation, she was always under the impression that this huge round the world trip wouldnt happen until she was at uni, but for them to just leave 6 months before she graduates high school is so unfair on her, they couldnt have waited 6 more months?)