I think youve hit the nail on the head, I just could never really word it. They have their lifestyle and certain things just dont fit in there.
Things have been going pretty good. Violet has caught up with her mother (even if it meant she had to skip school to do so) but her school has been very accommodating with this situation, all her teachers were very concearned about the situation, she's a very intelligent girl, straight A's in very difficult subjects (ive seen her specialist mathematics homework and it scares me, but she insists that its easy) and has the capacity to do amazing things and none of them wanted to see her drop out.
And things are pretty good here too, she's settled in really well, the girls have been so mature about it, at first they struggled with the social jumble, they go to two different schools so they have two different friendship groups and the whole "im going to the movies with my friends" "im going shopping with my friends" type of stuff was a bit of a sticky point at first, but they really have figured themselves out. Im really proud of both of them.
The only thing that worries me, at this point, and I dont think it will ever go away, is that the younger kids have become very attached to her, she really compliments what Sunny and Lux have 'missing' in their siblings, she has that interest in girly stuff and pretty, frilly clothes and soft makeup and hair that Sunny has, and she cant share that with tomboy Lux or lets stick as many rings in my face as humanly possible Dita, so they have become instant shopping and girly-stuff buddies. And she has that real academic interest that Lux has, and all of the other kids (minus Sash, he's too young for this) have more of a creative type intelligence, and Lux helps her 'study' (as in, she reads out questions) and is just in awe of her. So I am a little worried, again the whole "this IS a teenage relationship, and those dont have the best track record" but if that does happen (which I really hope it dosent, I adore her too) then it would just have to be chalked up to an experience.