so some of you might know my situation, if not i will kinda recap. me and my husband have joint custody of his 3 1/2 yr old son. We take him 7 days, real mom takes the other 7. Grandmaw babysits, always has. When he was 1 1 /2 -2 he went through a stage, i guess terrible two's. He was sooo angry, he would hit, bite, slap, throw fits. Well it got better we are proud to say. We haven't had any real trouble with him till now. He has been HORRIBLE these last few weeks, he doesn't listen to anyone. When you fuse him he puts his fist up to you like he will punch you. If you grab his hands to either put his fist down and get his attention, he bites you. He is angry with everyone. All he talks about is shooting people dead, people dieing. Saying he wants to shoot everyone. We have tried time out, spanking, talking,,, nothing seems to work. We took his toy guns away and told him that it's not nice to talk like that, he can only shoot birds when he goes hunting( which he has never done) he has never even seen a real gun, just toys, he tells everyone that his dad has a gun and he will get it from him and shoot them. We don't have any guns at our house. Im scared of where this violent behavior is going. We took him on vacation this weekend and he gave us soo much trouble, he hit all the kids. My mom walked in on him telling my nephews that he had a gun and he was gonna shoot them dead. On our way home they had a wreck on side the interstate, a car had flipped. When me and my husband saw it i said " Oh no.. " he looked up and said,, yeah the man's dead,, they all died and laughed. My husband told he that wasnt nice, i told him we had to pray that the people weren't hurt. Then when we get home there was a movie on USA with a man who shot another man. I didn't even notice that was playing on TV, we were in the middle of unpacking,well when he saw the cop shot the man, he lauged and said" The cop shot the man, he's dead, now he is gonna die" and laughed, when i heard what he said i immediatly changed it and he yelled" Hey i wanna watch that" i said no and he tried hitting me, Im 8 months pregnant, and as much as i love my stepson, i have to think about my unborn child and what type of behavior is around him and what my stepson might do. I know that kids are kids, but to be this interested in death at such a young age, and never be around it, i dont understand where he gets it from.. the only thing he watches is movies we buy, like Shrek,Ants,, stuff like that, he has a TV in his room but it stays on PBS or Nick Jr... please some one help us ??