I have been dealing with her and the topic of boys since I was 13.Xero said:I've been thinking about this like all night and I was just wondering if you know that most kids go through this particular guys/girls/dating/relationships/sex battle with their parents at like 16 years old (a lot of times earlier, I'm just being nice), not 20. Where were you when you were an actual teenager? Rather than an adult acting like one, and being treated like one? I'm confused. Not that I don't applaud you on abstaining and whatnot. I do. Just seems really weird. You're 20 years old and your mom has never had to deal with you seeing a movie with a boy? She's lucky she's not my mom lol I was sexually active at 16 and had a baby at 20. I pretended to go to bed at night and then climbed out my window to stay out all night with my boyfriend and sneak in right before they woke up. And I wasn't a bad kid in the least bit, I just had a life (kinda). Your mom should be relieved she had such a lucky break with a kid that didn't even TRY till she was 20! o__o
Now that I think about this a little harder, I really begin to wonder what kind of strict, sheltering control freak your mom really is. I always thought my mom was pretty controlling, and sheltering. I suppose the saying "it could always be worse" is usually true.
I remember her telling me I wasn't allowed to date till I was 16 when I was 13. I remember getting smacked across the mouth the middle of walmart because I said that aaron carter was hot and thats why I wanted the poster I had found.
Every single guy I have liked has been a struggle, always a discussion. Where is he going in life? Whats he going to do for a career?
And I wasn't ever even sure if the dates would go past a week or two, much less thinking about a future with the boy.
I haven't nescesarily abstained. I have gone out with guys but its when ever I am truthful with her about who I am hanging out with and the intentions of hanging out with them. Any time I have ever been on a date, my answers ti her were "we are just hanging out" or "I don't like him like that".
So when I am truthful to her, she gets angry..
When I lie, it pacifies her..
:veryconfused:
I'm just going to stop listening to her.
Like her rules (the crazy ones) and her view points (the ones that don't make sense).
If I am remembering correctly someone on here told me pretend I am doing what she wants and then do differently behind her back.
She already says she doesn't trust me so whats there to lose..
Maybe she'll learn to deal with it.