Xero said:
I'm having a really hard taking in really all of your posts (yes I have read everything from your intro post to this one), it all sounds more like a really extreme, disturbing movie plot or something. I'm not trying to offend you, just telling you how your descriptions come off to me. A lot of it is difficult to take seriously. I wouldn't sit here and say that it's impossible by any means, but it's all very unusual.
No offence meant, then no offence taken.
Like, a 12 year old sitting in your lap, asking you to tell strangers (parents, no less) on the internet her cup size? That doesn't seem like a weird thing for you to say to us at all?
She was joking. Her sense of humour is questionable at best. She told me a joke the other day about eating a vegetable that I shan't repeat in public.
Again, not trying to offend, just wondering if you realize how strange that sounds. Along those lines, everybody knew she was "bisexual" before she could even talk? Um, how? If a child shows any signs of sexuality in any form before they can even talk, something is very seriously wrong.
Given that she could talk when I got her, you should be able to tell that's an exaggeration. I can't remember when I picked up on it, not exactly, and the hyperbole sounded good in my head.
Small children don't have any understanding of sexuality or sexual preference. None. So that makes absolutely no sense. Surely having raised a child, you must realize this?
As a person who remembers <I>
being</I> a child, and how I thought <I>
as</I> a child, that's news to me.
Another thing, a woman you were with that had absolutely no legal or biological claim over your daughter took her away and you (her legally adoptive father and the only one with actual custody in the eyes of the law) thought that you had no grounds to fight it? lol she was basically kidnapped and you just were cool with that?
Alright, I didn't exactly know all that much about the law at that point. Was it irresponsible not to look into the legal precident (or lack thereof)? Yes. But with how I was, mentally, at the time (keep in mind several people I knew recently died) I took the excuse to give up the moment I had it. Thankfully, I got over that.
And can I please ask what it means to "brain" ones family terrier? 0_o Do I want to know?
She killed the dog. End of story.
Where on earth do you live that a small girl is getting raped, beaten, and shot twice - the right-wing conservative neighborhood as you describe it?? o_0
No, the rape, getting shot and her first beating were all in our old, poor neighbourhood. Not the middle-class community full of conservative families "escaping" liberal society I live in now.
Also, where do you live that this girl is still in school after giving BJs in the bathroom to little boys (she's a little girl too, but yes they are little boys) among what I can only imagine by your hints a number of other rather consistent sexual encounters with kids her age, punching a kid in the genitals, spitting on teachers, breaking an authority figure's nose, and who knows what else?
Alright, you do know we moved at one point, right? Not all of that happened here in this district, right? Yes, I'm surprised she hasn't been expelled. But I know the only reason she hasn't been is that the district is self-conscious about the county's opinion of them after them more than once endorsing their students engaging in gay-bashing, and since Sam was a chronic victim of said gay-bashing they don't think they can expel her. That said, this incident is the most extreme sexual thing she has ever done at this school. Breaking a teacher's nose was the only unprovoked assault she has engaged in while in this district. (Excluding spitting in a teacher's eye at one point, and shoving her gym coach, neither of which caused any actual damage.)
While the school isn't good by any stretch of the imagination, they aren't nearly as bad as I make them out to be, and I know it.
Where I live (and most places that I am familiar with), one kid so much as pokes another kid with a pencil and they're kicked out forever with the label of terrorist haha. It's called a "no tolerance policy". Can be over the top sometimes, but it's pretty wide spread and been around for quite some time. Kids don't just beat each other up, get suspended and come back anymore. Not these days.
Odd, considering the kids that hit her get (at worst) a slap on the wrist from the school.
Were you with the one woman who Sam "adopted" as a mother, or were you with her actual mother who breastfed her for 6 years? (<which really isn't that big of a deal btw)
I was with the woman who Sam adopted as a mother, who I then refer to as her mother for the rest of this. It was this woman, not her birth mother, who breastfed her until she was six. (Why she was lactating, I don't know. Maybe she got pregnant and had a miscarriage during one of our breakups.)
Anyway, assuming this is all shockingly real, have you ever considered home schooling or cyber school?
Yes, I have. Unfortunately, I'm not on good terms with the people who run the only cyberschool in my area. After all, the cyberschool is run by a real, physical highschool and I used to go to that highschool. I was NOT a pleasant student, and I had no respect for my teachers there. I let them know that on a regular basis.
Not saying she won't end up there... actually, I'm certain she will sooner or later, but she really wants to keep going to the physical school and I really don't want her to go to THAT cyberschool,
I mean, I might start to consider it after my kid keeps having sex,
This is the worst thing she has ever done in that regard, at least in school. The rest was all "you show me yours, I'll show you mine" and was normal kid stuff, the school just doesn't see it that way.
Yeah, I've talked to her about that. She laughed at me. Said "I'm happy with how these trades are going." She's winning these fights, and I think she likes that. I can't say I like her liking that, but I'm not going to pull her out of school against her permission unless I absolutely have to.
and shot.... in school.... :/
She's never been shot in school. She was shot once in our cheap, lower-class apartment and once outside next door to a friend's house. (That was the crossbow one. Friggin' weird.) She's never received any injury worse that a ruptured mammary in school. (On that subject, ouch. I mean really, there's no way that doesn't REALLY hurt.)
Can't say I'd keep sending her back, but that's just me.
The issue is I put a lot of value in her choice, when it comes to her and her safety. She wants to go to school, see her friends, have a reason to get up in the morning. Her getting into fights once or twice a year isn't as important to her. Of course, I don't believe that at all, and I think she just wants to leave through expulsion, because she CAN and WILL see her friends even if she switches to cyberschool, and rather than trying to keep things from escalating she appears to be driving hard for an expulsion, but I'm letting her choose anyway.
