parentastic: May I ask you why? What is scary about how someone else spends their love life?
That isn't the question at all. You have repeatedly reframed what I actually said. What IS scary is that the whole "we are born that way" thing has been bought, hook, line, and sinker and is immediately proclaimed upon anyone who ever has a doubt or a question. That is just not true, any more than one is born an adulterer or a pedophile. One may have proclivities or temptations in any number of ways (almost always from early experiences, according to the reading I've done) but that does not mean one has to act on it.
Not buying and I've really had enough of being forced into silence in the face of politically correct rhetoric. I'm not unkind to anyone and I keep my own business to myself. You won't find me marching in a parade or loudly proclaiming I sleep with a (fill in the gender) or attending support groups based on the person with whom I sleep. I only ask the same respect in kind.
Actually, it's more like saying your daughter's view <I>of her own love life</I> is the only legitimate one <I>for herself</I>.
What gives you the right to decide, or even to judge who she is allowed to be attracted to?
This is not my daughter. And again, you have entirely reframed what I said to fit your agenda.
What I said was that cutting off your parents because they are not in agreement with your daughter's choice of sexual partner is validating her viewpoint (gay is good) over the parent's view (traditional marriage is good). Why can't both co-exist? Why do the parents, whom I am assuming are elderly, based on the young adult age of the daughter, have to actively approve? Couldn't they agree to disagree on that, while still being grandchild and grandparent? Rational people could.
Why is it a "lifestyle" when it's about a homosexual and a "life" when it's a heterosexual?
It is a lifestyle no matter who is living it, I suppose. I never made such distinction here. I have one lifestyle; someone else has another.
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People do have the right to live their lifestyle unmolested (no pun intended) by others in word or deed to the extent that they are not harming anyone else. They absolutely do NOT have the right to insist on <I>
approval</I> from others on lifestyle choices.
We've gone way beyond tolerance to now demanding approval. Don't believe me? Try advocating a traditional lifestyle in a liberal setting....
Young gay/lesbian who decide to go out of the closet and tell their parent's aren't rejecting their parents, Testing.
When it happens, it is their parents, not they, who chose to reject them away. It is their parents who put them in front of this unbearable ultimatum, to change who they are attracted to, which they cannot do anymore than you can do, or be rejected by their own parents.
So yeah, I agree, how is this right?
I don't know where you got all this, because I didn't discuss this at all. The only people being excised here were the parents of the other poster, because they do not support the granddaughter's - her daughter's -gay relationship. I think this is really extreme to excise parents because they don't approve of gay relationships (obviously, unless they got violent or something, of which no evidence was given).
But, since you brought up this new topic, I will say that this isn't what I see AT ALL and I know loads of teens and parents. Though there may be initial - and natural - hurt, grief, and resistance to a child's decision, most parents come around, rather quickly, rather than lose their child. Statistically, the parents who throw their kids out of the house and reject them for good are pretty few and far between.
Ok Wait, I am confused.
Do you want your daughter to be happy in her life?
Ha. Yes, you ARE confused. It is NOT MY DAUGHTER.
But yes, I DO want my daughter to be happy as well as to stay in her faith in God, since you ask.
If she cannot be happy with the opposite gender, no matter how much she tries, (no more than you could be happy with people of the same sex by the way), would you say that it's okay to deprive her of all of her sexuality then? That she should just not love someone else, who would love her back, just under the idea that they are of the same gender?
It is not MY place to "deprive" anyone of anything. Consequences will come, regardless of decisions one makes in life. We all have choices to make. And again - it is not my daughter we are discussing here.
But not over someone of the same sex, would you? Even if your parents would have pressured you to? Even if society told you it was "bad" otherwise? Then why assume that gay/lesbian have anymore ability than you to suddenly get that "emotional pull" toward straight sex?
You do realize the double standard here?
You know what. There IS no double standard here. Any one of us could form a relationship with any number of possible partners and live a decent life. If our exposure and experience was to people of the same gender, and we routinely saw them forming happy relationships, this would seem very natural and an attraction could easily happen. If our exposure and experience was to people of the opposite gender and we routinely saw them forming happy relationships, hugging and kissing, etc, then we could easily form that kind of relationship.
We have internal barriers to certain things because of the way we were formed and the way we are raised. But those can be overcome by environment.
So yeah...prison, say a life sentence. Any man or any woman here could possibly form some relationship in that scenario and it would be perfectly understandable, particularly in the absence of any teaching that such a thing is right or wrong. To deny this, to say that this could NEVER happen with some men or some women, is ridiculous, though I'm sure there are low-risk possibilities in the group as there are in any group.
How does falling in love with someone who loves you back could destroy a family, Testing? Why do we even judge who someone love? For god sake's, why would it even be of any one else's business?
Here, I was talking about the teacher who jilted his wife and kids for the teen girl in his school. Instead of relying on his internal knowledge that this was wrong, he went for it. That's wrong and it does destroy a family. His family. His wife, whom he vowed to love and cherish as long as they both shall live.