Fair enough, but money is only one thing and in comparison to other issues here, it's my opinion that it should be a lesser consideration. You are to be commended for the effort and forethought you've put forward, however, I'd suggest that priorities must sometimes shift. Let's say your roof sustains damage, and you can spend 10,000 to fix it now or risk your entire house failing and collapsing. Now, you're saving for retirement, so you don't really have the money to commit to the repair. What do you do?
I'm just suggesting you be a little more flexible with your financial plans, devote you energy to getting your daughter well, then re-focus.
If you fear that your daughter isn't emmotionally invested in advancing her own life and lifestyle, then it's probably a problem that's been growing for some time. It's not something the death of the dog created. So, it's not likely that counselling can fix it in a few short weeks. or you taking a stern "You gotta pitch in" stance is going to suddenly fix it. It's going to have to be part of a larger comprehensive plan. Just because you can see the problem, doesn't mean it's necessarily correct or that anyone else wants to play along with your solution, correct? You have some work collectively on finding what the real problems are and how you're going to approach fixing them.
I'm just suggesting you be a little more flexible with your financial plans, devote you energy to getting your daughter well, then re-focus.
If you fear that your daughter isn't emmotionally invested in advancing her own life and lifestyle, then it's probably a problem that's been growing for some time. It's not something the death of the dog created. So, it's not likely that counselling can fix it in a few short weeks. or you taking a stern "You gotta pitch in" stance is going to suddenly fix it. It's going to have to be part of a larger comprehensive plan. Just because you can see the problem, doesn't mean it's necessarily correct or that anyone else wants to play along with your solution, correct? You have some work collectively on finding what the real problems are and how you're going to approach fixing them.