I agree great post.3kids4me said:I don't think it's unusual at all - all my kids have gone through phases where they wanted to sleep in my bed or in my room at one time or another.... I suspect that there may be more than one reason but to me, the symptom doesn't seem very serious all on it's own.
He's getting older and perhaps more aware of his dad's absences, perhaps he heard someone ask you if you were lonly without his dad there or someone commenting and feels that he will help keep you company.
You could try offering him a place to sleep on the floor just to see how he would react to that offer (would that make him as happy or does he crave the body contact). (I tell my daughter now that I have trouble sleeping with her in the bed but she can sleep on the floor - on a makeshift mattress - I get clostophobic sometimes)
If it appears to be the body contact, try upping the hugs and pats and tickles during the day and see if that makes any difference but unless some other symptom comes up, I really wouldn't worry about it all that much - you can always tell him that you enjoy cuddling and hugging but the grabbing is uncomfortable and ask him not to do that.
Lisa
That is really difficult because you may just have a really sensitive boy. I do so I kind of know where you are coming from. My son really picks up on my feelings so I have to make sure to keep all the feelings of insecurity, fear, lonliness on a tight reign because I don't want him to feel that as well. Do you notice him picking up on your feelings? It's hard to explain but I think you would notice if you watched him for a bit. I had to make sure that he knew I was there to protect him and make sure he was happy so he could be a little boy and not the "man of the house". Sometimes that consists of something as little as changing your outlook.josie said:He seems to be happy enough, but is there anything I can do for him instead of him having to feel as though he's the one having to do things for me?
josie said:My family isn't split. My husband works away for long periods of time.
I wish you'd quit saying that Fooser, sometimes kids do not need two parents. That's your belief and that's fine. However some people have reasons that they don't. No child should have two parents if there is abuse or addiction. I don't care who you are. *sorry, felt the need to vent*FooserX said:Oh...sorry, I didn't read that.
Well kids need 2 parents...same thing.
I agree MM. I mean sure everyone would LIKE to be ina stable great married with kids, but lets be honest, thats not always the norm anymore. I would rather my child grow up with one stable, loving, supportive parent, then in a home with abuse of any kind.musicmom said:I wish you'd quit saying that Fooser, sometimes kids do not need two parents. That's your belief and that's fine. However some people have reasons that they don't. No child should have two parents if there is abuse or addiction. I don't care who you are. *sorry, felt the need to vent*