I am a 39 year old father of two a 16 year old son and a 12 year old daughter.
Over the course of this year my daughter has gotten so bad with her grades that I am now really really concerned.....she gets grades for the first half of the school year at the end of the month and I am fairly certain she is failing every class.
I simply dont know what to do.
At the beginning of the year me and my wife took a child and were responsibile for keeping track of their progress (I took my son....no problems with him as he is a student athlete and has to make his grades in order to play)
My wife however handled her end really badly (and I am very frustrated at her about it) as she took my daughters word to much and a lot of what she said wasn't true....I have NEVER seen my daughter lie about what is going on in school as I have this year.
Therefore I told my wife to to forget it and I will montor both kids. I have tried the following actions:
- I have emailed the teachers and asked them to let me know if anything is going on and I will take action immediately...this has been futile as the teachers are also not giving me information in a timely manner and only when I ask for it. This results in finding out things too late.
- The school sells a planner that the student can write down their assignments and the teacher can sign off every day....I get NO INFO from the teachers in this planner even though I have asked for it.
Now I get a progress report that is manditory from the school showing all these homework assignments, bad grades on tests, basically stuff i can do nothing about at this time....I NEEDED TO KNOW THEN.
Then of course there is the issue with my daughter, who is basically lieing to me and blowing off school. I ask her daily "tests to take this week" "homeowrk all done" "let me sign off your planner"
NONE OF IT IS WORKING
I have talked to....talked to some more....and last night when I saw the reports I just blew up and yelled at her. I have not yet spanked her (I stopped spanking as discipline years ago when I realized that I could not control my emotions and myself when I did it) and I dont want to go back to that.
I just dont know what to do....right now I am frustrated at everybody...my daughter, my wife for not doing enough, and the school system who isn't doing enough to help my daugher either.
Over the course of this year my daughter has gotten so bad with her grades that I am now really really concerned.....she gets grades for the first half of the school year at the end of the month and I am fairly certain she is failing every class.
I simply dont know what to do.
At the beginning of the year me and my wife took a child and were responsibile for keeping track of their progress (I took my son....no problems with him as he is a student athlete and has to make his grades in order to play)
My wife however handled her end really badly (and I am very frustrated at her about it) as she took my daughters word to much and a lot of what she said wasn't true....I have NEVER seen my daughter lie about what is going on in school as I have this year.
Therefore I told my wife to to forget it and I will montor both kids. I have tried the following actions:
- I have emailed the teachers and asked them to let me know if anything is going on and I will take action immediately...this has been futile as the teachers are also not giving me information in a timely manner and only when I ask for it. This results in finding out things too late.
- The school sells a planner that the student can write down their assignments and the teacher can sign off every day....I get NO INFO from the teachers in this planner even though I have asked for it.
Now I get a progress report that is manditory from the school showing all these homework assignments, bad grades on tests, basically stuff i can do nothing about at this time....I NEEDED TO KNOW THEN.
Then of course there is the issue with my daughter, who is basically lieing to me and blowing off school. I ask her daily "tests to take this week" "homeowrk all done" "let me sign off your planner"
NONE OF IT IS WORKING
I have talked to....talked to some more....and last night when I saw the reports I just blew up and yelled at her. I have not yet spanked her (I stopped spanking as discipline years ago when I realized that I could not control my emotions and myself when I did it) and I dont want to go back to that.
I just dont know what to do....right now I am frustrated at everybody...my daughter, my wife for not doing enough, and the school system who isn't doing enough to help my daugher either.