I actually have that now. Both of Jackie's boys were adopted. They were crackbabies. Zach has severe behavioral problems. He's on Clonodine and Risperdal. Risperdal is for schizos.
Jack's ex-wife does not discipline her children at all. Even the girls mouth off. Or did, rather. I put my foot down and said there is NO way they are going to talk to me like they do their mother, and no way they are going to act in my house how they do in theirs.
These are good kids, even Zach, who is quite difficult to handle most of the time. I call them brats, or little imps when we're all goofing off. But I would never consider calling them assholes or anything else. My cousin (who is just a flat out terrible mother) calls her son a f'ing bastard all the time, and he is the most unbehaved, out of control child I've seen in my life.
I guess my point, really, is that if you call someone something enough, it kind of sticks. I grew up with my father telling me I was a whore and a slut and I hadn't even had sex! However, the minute I was 18, and felt I could do what I wanted without having to face the wrath of my father, guess what I did? Ran right out and acted like a whore.