Father_0f_6 said:
And if that's really the way he act all the time (or even some of the time) they will NEVER take him as a cop.
He is only 15 and is going through a rough time in his life.
He is being harassed and has some unsolved issues going on right now, like not having a dad in his life or growing up, my mom being too clingy and restrictive with him, watching his friends get to do whatever they want while he doesn't. He feels like my mom hasn't been there enough in his life.
He used to be this smart bright boy who was friendly and got along with everyone. He always has been above his peers, mentally, emotionally and academically yet my mom has been as strict on his as you would be with someone who was hanging out in the wrong crowd, has all F's and was immature.
She said the other day that he has always been above his peers and I said to her "I know, and you give those types of kids more privileges and freedom because they are that way...you don't tighten down on them so hard." and she said I see that now, that was a huge mistake on my part.
Do I think this time in his life should be the deciding factor in whether he is emotionally stable enough to be a cop?
Hell no.
He is only 15 and has another 6 years before he can even go to academy, over half a decade from now.
I believe he is going to grow and mature as a person and one day will make a great cop.
My mom has already lightened up on him a great deal in just a few short weeks.
She's gone from blocking girls numbers from his phone, not allowing him to date or talk to girls, reading his text messages, setting time limits he couldn't use him phone etc. Following him places and spying , going though his myspace/facebook, or even letting him go places with out adult supervision
TO
Letting him talk to and date girls, hang out with girls in a group of friends, she doesn't read his text messages, no time limits on his phone he can use it whenever, she doesn't follow him and spy any more, she doesn't even look at his facebook or myspace, and he and his friends now bike all over town and go to brunswick zone with out adults and go to the movies etc.
I have seen a huge change in him. He is much happier..
I know he is a child and he needs rules and he has them.
His "curfew" is 12 unless I am with him and then he can be out as late as me.
He does have chores.
He does have dating rules and expectations on how far is too far.
He is expected not to smoke or drink.
That's about it though.