In the tradition of "if I post an article about parenting, I have proven my point beyond question" I did a quick search and found an abstract to an article about research about parenting. It seems to state the opposite of what I've seen in this forum and a lot of other forums on this site.
I don't necessarily stand behind this. I just wanted to make the point that research is not the end all of parenting, and proof positive is when there is contradictory research, we believe what we want to believe anyway, so we are back where we started.
ABSTRACT:
In contrast to the common practice of pitting love and limits against each other, several research programs have shown that optimal parenting combines the two. This paper outlines a conditional sequence model of optimal disciplinary responses and shows its consistency with a wide range of research. The model suggests that optimal disciplinary responses begin with less severe tactics, such as reasoning, but proceed to firmer disciplinary tactics when the initial tactic achieves neither compliance nor an acceptable compromise. The firmer tactics can be nonphysical punishment initially with nonabusive physical punishment reserved as a back-up for the nonphysical punishment. This is consistent with many studies showing that a combination of reasoning and punishment is more effective than either one alone and with new evidence that this sequence enhances the effectiveness of milder disciplinary tactics with preschoolers.
I don't necessarily stand behind this. I just wanted to make the point that research is not the end all of parenting, and proof positive is when there is contradictory research, we believe what we want to believe anyway, so we are back where we started.
ABSTRACT:
In contrast to the common practice of pitting love and limits against each other, several research programs have shown that optimal parenting combines the two. This paper outlines a conditional sequence model of optimal disciplinary responses and shows its consistency with a wide range of research. The model suggests that optimal disciplinary responses begin with less severe tactics, such as reasoning, but proceed to firmer disciplinary tactics when the initial tactic achieves neither compliance nor an acceptable compromise. The firmer tactics can be nonphysical punishment initially with nonabusive physical punishment reserved as a back-up for the nonphysical punishment. This is consistent with many studies showing that a combination of reasoning and punishment is more effective than either one alone and with new evidence that this sequence enhances the effectiveness of milder disciplinary tactics with preschoolers.