That's what bothered me too. It's like she's the only teen who ever disrespected anyone. I understand the father's anger at her, and I'm not saying I wouldn't have gotten mad too. I can definatly say that I never ever would have thought to take out my gun and shoot his computer or electronic game, or any toy. Either would my husband.
Oh I have but for a completely different reason!
Some people keep saying 'But she was told many times and still didn't listen' again, that's what teens do they push you over the edge. So. take her computer away until she stops doing what you don't like. No time limit, make her come for it once she has stopped her undesirable behavior. But to 'kill' it?? I still find that bazaar. Sorry.
I think dad was just at the point that he was trying to make a much bigger lasting impression. While I find shooting it overkill also. I didn't/don't see it as that big of a deal.
However, I still think teenagers need their private space just to be teenagers. REMEMBER HOW THAT WAS EVERYONE??? When we didn't want our parents to be seen with us. HONESTLY? We parents shouldn't know every single thing our normal teen is doing either.
I'm not so sure that we shouldn't know at least 90% of what our teens are doing. This wasn't a diary, it was FB...very viral and very public. If she didn't want there to be any chance that her parents would see it then she should not have posted it on the internet. Even a 16 year old is capable of understanding that.
I remember how it was when I was a teen, I rebelled just as well as any other teenager. My parents gave us a lot of respect, and allowed us to be teenagers without watching and controlling our every single move and breath. They just let us be our age, and yes we got in trouble for being rude and disrespectful too.
I never rebelled, sad but true, I was a really good kid. I always told my mom when I was going to ditch. I always called when going from one place to another. I would NEVER think to write the kinda letter she did. My very own teenagers said that it was disrespectful of her not to mention degrading to the house lady. They...teenagers themselves, saw absolutely nothing wrong with what the dad did. They said they could see me doing it if they pushed me to far. I wouldn't have used a gun, my luck the recoil would have hit me in the head.
Our diaries were sacred ,if parents wanted to, they could have found just about all the same stuff this kid wrote on FB in our diaries, We talked about our families, friends, boyfriends, school, our deepest feelings, and all kinds of secrets. They respected our rights as people and if they did read our diaries they pretty much kept that to themselves. Teenagers haven't changed, technology has.
True, but that means they are a lot more smarter at it the most parents are and it doesn't take common sense (well not a lot) to know if you want something private facebook is not the place to put it. Megan just made a good point also...you wouldn't take your diary to school and let them read it. That's what facebook is like, if you don't want it known you don't post it.
I suppose not everyone had that kind of loving safe upbringing, and maybe that's why many people think the father's reaction wasn't so over the top. Sad but I guess that has a lot to do with it.
I don;t see that. I don't think she has unloving carefree life. I think her parents have rules that she is required to live by, a moral code that the parents live by. I had (outside of abuse and many other things) a really good childhood and I don't see it as that over the top.