Today is the first day in a little over a week that we've had a full house. My hubby (Dai) and daughter just got back from a daddy/daughter week in Ottawa, and Morgan is back from LA, so everyone's home. You'd have thought the time apart would make Dai and Morgan at least civil for a while, but nope.
Dai is hypercritical of Morgan, and doesn't know when to drop it. He'll just keep pushing buttons until Morgan reacts, and then come complaining to me when he doesn't like what he gets! Today he started laying into Morgan as soon as the poor kid walked in the door and didn't let up. It was everything: dishes in the sink, unfolded laundry, too long on the phone. Morgan answered the door in his pajamas (running shorts, tee shirt) and Dai yelled at him for "showing too much skin"!
Morgan finally got fed up and snapped at Dai. He basically said "f*** you", to which Dai (6'2", 200lbs) responded by puffing up and getting in Morgan's (6'1", 130lbs) face. I pushed them apart and told Morgan to take a walk to calm down, and told Dai to just lay off him. They both backed down, but Dai made a verrrry cutting, below-the-belt kind of remark and called him the f word (rhymes with bag), and Morgan stormed out. He called me from his best friend's house to say he's going to spend the night there because he doesn't want to come home tonight.
This kind of crap has been going on way too long. Morgan moved out for almost a year when he was 16 because of this sort of thing, and ended up in some very bad circumstances and being taken advantage of. I'm so relieved and glad that he's back home (he's been living with us again since August), and this is where I want him to stay. I know he's at least safe here, and I don't want him to be driven out of here again. Not only that, it's no good for Emma to see her dad treating her brother like that. Dai isn't Morgan's father, but "not my kid, not my problem" just doesn't fly when you've been with his mum for thirteen years!
I love Dai. Really, I do. He's wonderful to Emma and me, but I just don't know how much longer I can handle being forced to pick sides between him and my son.
Dai is hypercritical of Morgan, and doesn't know when to drop it. He'll just keep pushing buttons until Morgan reacts, and then come complaining to me when he doesn't like what he gets! Today he started laying into Morgan as soon as the poor kid walked in the door and didn't let up. It was everything: dishes in the sink, unfolded laundry, too long on the phone. Morgan answered the door in his pajamas (running shorts, tee shirt) and Dai yelled at him for "showing too much skin"!
Morgan finally got fed up and snapped at Dai. He basically said "f*** you", to which Dai (6'2", 200lbs) responded by puffing up and getting in Morgan's (6'1", 130lbs) face. I pushed them apart and told Morgan to take a walk to calm down, and told Dai to just lay off him. They both backed down, but Dai made a verrrry cutting, below-the-belt kind of remark and called him the f word (rhymes with bag), and Morgan stormed out. He called me from his best friend's house to say he's going to spend the night there because he doesn't want to come home tonight.
This kind of crap has been going on way too long. Morgan moved out for almost a year when he was 16 because of this sort of thing, and ended up in some very bad circumstances and being taken advantage of. I'm so relieved and glad that he's back home (he's been living with us again since August), and this is where I want him to stay. I know he's at least safe here, and I don't want him to be driven out of here again. Not only that, it's no good for Emma to see her dad treating her brother like that. Dai isn't Morgan's father, but "not my kid, not my problem" just doesn't fly when you've been with his mum for thirteen years!
I love Dai. Really, I do. He's wonderful to Emma and me, but I just don't know how much longer I can handle being forced to pick sides between him and my son.