Sex Ed...
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Lissa said:
Yes ma'am. I think that is something soooo vital and for it to be left out is a shame and just shows what our society has come to. It's not sex for pleasure, it's sex because of love.
I came from a small town where this was a huge problem. Parents didn't talk to their kids about sex, very little after school activities other than sports. High school boys were dating girls in the 7th-8th grade and pressuring them to start having sex, often before they felt they were ready, but once they started having sex, it became easier to say yes to sex.Lissa said:
When my mother got pregnant with me, she was 15. That was only almost 29 years ago. Then, she lost all her friends and was looked down upon because she had had sex outside of marriage and as a teenager. Today's time teaches teenagers that it's ok, have sex, have a kid. Welfare will raise it. Where did our morals go?
Before Dundas amalgamated with the City of Hamilton, Dundas was a really small town too. And at one point had the highest teen pregnacy rate (i'm not sure what year), but despite this, when we all hit about 12 my mom sat us down and gave us a sex talk which included her concerns, how things worked the whole low down.jtee said:
The first time I had sex I felt very pressured. I did not love this boy. I didn't even know him. All I knew was that he was very popular and if I didn't have sex with him, there would be many rumors flying around school about how "straight" I was (as if that were a bad thing). Sex didn't mean love to me because nobody told me that it had to mean just that.jtee said:
There are many cases today where teens want to have a baby and I think this stems from self esteem issues. "If I have a baby, they will love me."
Very sad
Very sad
See thats the perspective that everyone has. HOWEVER, the truth is that Sex ed, and whatever else doesn't teach our kids to have sex and have kids etc. If that happens then the kids have not been taught how to a) protect them selves and b) the lack of parental intervention with the child. Unfortunatly, if kids want to ahve sex, despite their parents concerns and what they learn in class, they will. So we need to also tell them our concerns but also aid them so they know how to protect themselvesAmber said:
I think half of that reason is that they obviously do not have love coming from home.HappyMomma said:
I often wonder if this was true for my sisters who got pregnant in high school. We all I think struggled with self esteem back then, I still do in many ways. Like I said before, girls especially want acceptance and love. If they don't get it at home, they will get it somewhere else. Family life is so important.HappyMomma said:
I know my mother took sex ed, and my grandmother talked to her about it, but I'm not sure what all consisted of their talk.
Exactly.meow_173 said:
Or the information they need to realize how much is really involved in being a parent.
Or the media. Right now EVERY star studded actor or singer are having babies. So if they aren't shoving the "ideal weight" in girls faces, its now babies babies babies!HappyMomma said:
You know, I honestly believe we are living in the 'Me' generation. People are so obsessed with 'what can I gain, what's in it for me' that we've become unsympathetic to others needs and concerns, and that includes children. God help me if I ever so much as 'think' about being so worried about myself that I can't love my children as I should.
Yes, that is my understanding too. Schools are mainly supporting what already taught at home and giving children some basic accurate facts about sex. Our daughter is pretty well informed, but a couple of her friends come from homes where sex is a taboo subject and these girls get nearly all of their sex education from talking with other girls, not parents. Boys & sex are not an uncommon topic at sleep overs. When we hear a lot of giggling and whispering, we know what they are talking about.HappyMomma said:
