Showering with children...
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Oh please, have you ever been in a men's locker room? 
Perhaps you shouldn't be as concerned about what others think and be more concerned about how your son reacts to these shower together times. If he's comfortable with it and you are comfortable with it, I don't see anything wrong with it. In this era of busy working parents and few opportunities to have down time, showering together may be one more opportunity to connect. I have learned that paying careful attention to my children's reactions to things helps me know if what I am doing makes them uncomfortable. At 4, I doubt you could be doing anything other than bonding with your son.
For the record, I showered with all of my children when they were little because, on most days, it was the only way I was guaranteed of getting a shower in for myself. As you may notice, some of them are now adults and none of them have suggested they were harmed by this at all.
Finally, you can teach children to be ashamed of their nakedness or you can teach them to respect that there are appropriate situations in which nakedness is natural and if showering is not one of them, I don't know what is.
Perhaps you shouldn't be as concerned about what others think and be more concerned about how your son reacts to these shower together times. If he's comfortable with it and you are comfortable with it, I don't see anything wrong with it. In this era of busy working parents and few opportunities to have down time, showering together may be one more opportunity to connect. I have learned that paying careful attention to my children's reactions to things helps me know if what I am doing makes them uncomfortable. At 4, I doubt you could be doing anything other than bonding with your son.For the record, I showered with all of my children when they were little because, on most days, it was the only way I was guaranteed of getting a shower in for myself. As you may notice, some of them are now adults and none of them have suggested they were harmed by this at all.
Finally, you can teach children to be ashamed of their nakedness or you can teach them to respect that there are appropriate situations in which nakedness is natural and if showering is not one of them, I don't know what is.
Well said
I think is a matter of education, when I was a kid a could ask about ANYTHING and I always got an answer, well an appropiate answer.
I want the same for my little girl, I want to be the one who will explain her about birds and bees, nudity and all that stuff , I can't teach her about shame and so, that will destroy the confidence I want to create about those issues...
I think is a matter of education, when I was a kid a could ask about ANYTHING and I always got an answer, well an appropiate answer.
I want the same for my little girl, I want to be the one who will explain her about birds and bees, nudity and all that stuff , I can't teach her about shame and so, that will destroy the confidence I want to create about those issues...
EXACTLY! Thats what i've been trying to articulate, but have clearly failed LOL. If you shun away, or act as if nakedness is wrong, or embarassing then, children are products of their environment, which obviously in turn will make them embarassed or feel that being naked is wrong.EHB said:
By teaching kids to respect people's bodies, that they are not "wrong" or "wierd", but to teach them that there is nothing wrong with it will i think ultimately benefit kids. By resepct, of course i mean when you get out of the shower, obviously you're not going to galavant around naked, but to tell them that you are going to your room and change without them etc.
So, in earlier posts i was on the fence about this situation, i talked about it to my hubby, and he doesn't really agree with it (kids at age 4 taking showers with their parents), however, i think that if yo uare in a rush, its not the end of the world. Especially if the kids are educated to respect their bodies and their parents bodies.
Okay late jumping in here too. I do not shower anymore with my nine or eight year old however my five year old sometimes jumps in with me or one of my older daughters (we do not have a bathtub- just a shower) because she is kinda scared to shower on her own. If nothing else I am usually in the bathroom with her just to make sure she is okay. On the other hand my ex washes her in the tub and she has asked him not to because it makes her uncomfortable. Even when she showers with me she washes her own body and hair. We'll see if he listened next time she is visiting him. Of course the baby showers with me now. If your son is comfortable then keep on going. He'll let you know when he's ready to shower on his own. You are not harming him in any way.
In Japan many parents sleep and shower with their kids (<U>even different gender</U>) until they are about 6!ed261311 said:
America is backwards compared to other countries. I love America too but we need to get over some of these issues.
with it's incredible 'the whole pedophile obsession' thing.Kaytee said:
as well, but this culture sure has a lot of blind spots)
. A little girl (about 3 y.o.) was playing with her dad and at some point she lay down in such a way that her legs were around her father’s face (so basically, her privet parts were right in front of daddy’s face). And NOTHING happened, they just kept playing, without thinking anything of it. The author of the video has even commented, that in our culture we would think about it as inappropriate because WE think it’s sexy, dirty, vulgar and are too afraid that we can have sexual feelings triggered by something like that. In their culture, neither the father nor the girl thought anything of it and so it was—NOTHING. They just enjoyed playing and interacting with each other…[/COLOR]
This may be a little late in the conversation, but about sleeping in the same room. I slept in the same room until I was 8 with my older sister. It was fine, and I think one of the best expiriences. I was a very scared child, so I felt a lot safer with my sister there, and it also helped me bond with my sister, since we would be in the same room a lot during the day. I see no problem with showering with your little one as long as THEY'RE comfortable. They should always be able to say yes or no, that is the only restriction.