tadamsmar said:
Consider the kid is carrying a can of gas toward a fire. Safekids say that gas should be secured in a locked area and kids should be supevised near a fire.
The best way to address safety is via a quality systems approach where you look to improve the system so that there is less reliance on individuals always being perfect rather than seeking someone to blame and punish.
It would probably be best to get kids interested in helping to find and secure hazards and to come up with prevention ideas.
On side-effect of spanking is that kids become more sneaky and secretive. This would tend to undermine the activities that lead to a safe environment.
How often does a child carry a can of gas towards a fire? Seriously?
Can anyone here say they have intercepted their child carrying a can of gas towards a fire?
I have an issue with over the top hypothetical examples. Parenting "mistakes" that don't tend to happen to the vast majority of people being used to back up an argument really doesn't move to conversation forward any.
Yes, I would say that all of us here keep our cans of gas and our fires as far away from each other as possible, and as far away from our children as possible.
I am not pro-spanking, but there have been a very small number of times when it was my only option, but like SingleDad and Amy, it bothers me to see it compared to abuse, and like Amy, I agree that belittling someone in the same breath as arguing abuse isn't proving much of a point.
There are dangers you cannot foresee, one of the instances when I had to spank was a few years ago when we had large bushfires (look! fires!) in our area, we had to evacuate, the national park that our house backs on to was burning and Lux was being as stubborn as a wart and would not leave her toys. She sat on the floor in her bedroom screaming "NO NO NO NO NO"
Now as much as I would have liked to talk her through it, it takes seconds for a fire to move through dry native Australian vegetation and there were high winds that day and we could see the flames from our back window, so I tried picking her up, but I am very small and she was kicking and screaming and I couldn't carry her, so I hit her on the bottom. Yeah, it shocked her, and it shocked her into moving her butt out the front door, and I will always stand by that being the right thing to do in that moment.
That's a pretty extreme example, but it is reality for people where I live, but the point is that we cannot always perceive dangers far enough in advance to react in a calm manner. Sometimes we freak out, and sometimes it proves to be an action that keeps our kids safe.