allright, maybe I'm wrong, and there are things I don't get. Like i didn't get what makes this boy such a scumbag. is he doing drugs? is he a criminal? is he living in a dumpster?
ok, he might not the perfect prospect for a son-in-law, he made a few stupid choices, but is it really such a big deal? Brokenhearted, the way you react, you're making HIM the centre of universe. I guess, if she could be seing him in the open, maybe it would be a question of weeks or months, until she realizes that he's no good for her, there are plenty of other cute boys. and now they have all the thrill of forbidden romance. and much longer time to actually learn the lesson, if ever learn it.
But... what reaction do they get for telling the truth? being shouted at, being punished? and still expected to tell the truth?
the worrying part is, if a teen really get into trouble -- will a parent be the first person they'd go for help?
ok, he might not the perfect prospect for a son-in-law, he made a few stupid choices, but is it really such a big deal? Brokenhearted, the way you react, you're making HIM the centre of universe. I guess, if she could be seing him in the open, maybe it would be a question of weeks or months, until she realizes that he's no good for her, there are plenty of other cute boys. and now they have all the thrill of forbidden romance. and much longer time to actually learn the lesson, if ever learn it.
no offense, but do you hate him more than you care about your daughter's future?And no I am not funding her to secure her life with a loser and his loser family.
that's very right. moreover, teens are selfish, and they want things here and now. they react adversly to things they are being told to do or phrases like "wait till you grow up".Most teens when their mouth is moving THEY ARE LYING.
But... what reaction do they get for telling the truth? being shouted at, being punished? and still expected to tell the truth?
the worrying part is, if a teen really get into trouble -- will a parent be the first person they'd go for help?
Xero, you're a mother of a boy. Let's say your son is seing a girl, who's mother dislikes your family for no valid reason, like your lower social standing or that you're not doctors or lawyers. would you try to be more understanding for your son, or take the side of some strange lady?Xero said:I don't pretend to know whether or not his family are losers, but I can at least sympathize with the fact that I would be very negative towards any supposedly responsible, respectful adults that go behind my back as a parent to help two teens sneak around, clearly showing my daughter that it doesn't matter what I say and she can do what she wants. They help them sneak around, and lie, and be deceitful. That's wrong and immature. At least a little bit loser-ish. IMO