I think anyone who has seen me post here for any length of time knows that I have far from mindless. LOL That being said, I have been a wife who is submitted to the will of God for nearly five years now. That means that, in our family, DH is the head of the household, and I am the keeper of the home and family. When we have a major decision to make, we discuss it with each other, we pray about it, and then, IF we don't agree, which almost never happens, DH is the one to make the final decision.gr8mom said:I saw this topic on another thread and thought it deserved a thread of it's own. First what does it mean for a wive to be submissive to her husband? Second do you believe in it? I was raised this way but find it very unfair to the woman to have to go along with every decision the man makes even if she doesn't agree with it. I also think that our Savior treated women equally to men. There are no instances in the bible that I can recall that state any differently. If we were meant to be mindless servants then why did he give us independant thought? I understand that Eve brought down submissiveness on womankind when she ate the forbidden fruit but didn't our Savior die for everyones sins, even womens?
I have plenty of time to get out and be with other adults, if I choose to do so, and yet still be here whenever the children need me. And we construct our lifestyle so that we can live comfortably on just the one income. Things are not our priority, the family is.Good Wolf said:Once they are in school then it is not only healthy for you to get out of the house to be with other adults, but the extra money doesn't hurt either.
And that lifestyle is totally different from the religious idea of submitting to the will of God, which is what causes so much confusion and gives the idea of "submission" a bad rap.HappyMomma said:In addition to and aside from religeous reasons, there are many people that choose a submissive/dominant lifestyle. I think it really does come down to personal choice and how a person feels more comfortable living their lives.
Exactly!!!As for the family paying for the husband's actions now, yes, that's true. However, this world is but temporary. There is going to be heartache and struggles. However, I will not pay for it when I am gone. The man will...he will answer for his actions. The only thing I will answer to is if I did or did not follow my husband as I was instructed to do, per the Bible.
No, it's not all a woman's fault...it's SIN, and straying from the will of God.Skyburning said:Since when are divorce and adultery all a woman's fault?
I choose to live the way God wants, my husband doesn't MAKE me do it. We are both living under the will of God. We do what God wants us to do, not what people think we should do. We trust in Him to lead us in the right direction.1dayatatime said:This whole submissive thing rubs me the wrong way. I do all the "women" chores because I choose to. My husband couldn't make me do anything. If he starts to take all I do for granted I go on strike. He doesn't have to ask for anything. I anticipate his needs. I don't think any woman should be made to feel that if they dont do the "woman" stuff their a bad person. Women can do anthing. Should they? That's something completely different and personal to each.
I know I'm setting myself up, but technically, no on the physical abuse issue. The rape, yes. And that is because it teaches if you so much as look with lust in your heart, you've committed adultery. So, one must lust before they can rape.Skyburning said:So physical abuse or rape wouldn't be grounds for divorce? Beliefs such as this make me :huh:
Ari2 said:Amber, do you know many highly successful women such as female surgeons or executives? Do you really think they operate or lead businesses more by intuition than logic?
Skyburning said:So, would someone of the "submissive" status, be willing to share a basic definition of what the modern day submissive religious woman actually IS and what they are actually required to be submissive about? For example, if a woman didn't believe in spanking her kids, and the husband did and told her to, does she have to?
meow_173 said:Wow, the first signs of physical abuse i would be gone so fast. And not for my sake, but if a man can raise a hand to his wife, whose to say they wont raise a hand to my child
See now this is one of the exact things that i do not understand about religion. There are so many that refuse women an annulment or divorce, it is up to the man. Yet if a women is being abused it doesn't matter....:angry:Amber said:Exactly. So, I do have a problem with that. But like I said, I'm not 100% sure, but I'll do some looking, let you know what Baptists believe on this issue.
I have to disagree here. Lack of knowledge of D/s lifestyle, and lack of tolerance of religion give it a bad rap.Teresa said:And that lifestyle is totally different from the religious idea of submitting to the will of God, which is what causes so much confusion and gives the idea of "submission" a bad rap.
That's where training, education, and experience come in. No one - male or female - will make it through law school, med school, or an MBA program by leading more with their emotions than with facts and logic. And no one - male or female - is going to make it to partner at a law firm or finish a medical residency or get through the hierarchy of a corporation without being able to keep their emotions in check and lead with their knowledge. None of these systems are forgiving nor do they care overly much about emotions. They want results and exceptional performance from their high-level employees. And if a woman truly needed a man's logic to rein her in, as you suggested earlier, she would not survive professionally.Amber said:I'm not implying that women have no logic whatsoever. I know many, many highly intelligent women who are just as capable as leading a major company as any man, if not better, than them. Just merely stating that we as women tend to lead more with their emotions and stuff.
If I can ..gr8mom said:I saw this topic on another thread and thought it deserved a thread of it's own. First what does it mean for a wive to be submissive to her husband? Second do you believe in it? I was raised this way but find it very unfair to the woman to have to go along with every decision the man makes even if she doesn't agree with it. I also think that our Savior treated women equally to men. There are no instances in the bible that I can recall that state any differently. If we were meant to be mindless servants then why did he give us independant thought? I understand that Eve brought down submissiveness on womankind when she ate the forbidden fruit but didn't our Savior die for everyones sins, even womens?
Biblical submission is for men as well as women, which is what a lot of people miss. We are BOTH submitted to the will of God, and we are His children, not His property. It has nothing to do with the worldview, then or now, as He also commands us to be "in the world, but not OF the world." Our sexual favors are only for one another, which is His will as well as ours. Since God commands against adultery, for my husband to do as you say would be going against the will of God, and I would be right to refuse to follow his direction at that point.hwnorth said:The act of female submission in religion is written from the days when a woman was owned property of the man, and the man had full control over every aspect of her life, including allowing others to use her for sexual service.
So how far do you REALLY follow your religion ?
Never mind, you just answered my question....and I'm not going to try to teach a course in Christianity on this thread. If someone else wants to take it on, more power to them. Let's just say, short version, that the Old Testament is Jewish law, and the New Testament is Christian teachings.So if you go by the New Testament... then why... and why not the old testament.. and if the new testament is the RIGHT one to go by, then what was the reasoning for the old testament.
gr8mom said:I can't find it now but somewhere someone put a post that said she didn't worry about her husband making decisions which would be bad for the family or affect them in a bad way because he would be the one to answer for it on judgement day. I myself think this is a cop out. If you're being submissive just so you don't have to take responsibility for things I think it's putting too heavy a burden on your husband.
Im not debating who wrote the old and new testaments ... let me pose it this way....Teresa said:Biblical submission is for men as well as women, which is what a lot of people miss. We are BOTH submitted to the will of God, and we are His children, not His property. It has nothing to do with the worldview, then or now, as He also commands us to be "in the world, but not OF the world." Our sexual favors are only for one another, which is His will as well as ours. Since God commands against adultery, for my husband to do as you say would be going against the will of God, and I would be right to refuse to follow his direction at that point.
Yes, I get that, but old testament writings still state (as far as they can be deciphered) that women are the mens property... owned. There is talk of confusion about submission in this thread, therefore ONE of my points is just that, confusion about new teachings VS old teachings
Never mind, you just answered my question....and I'm not going to try to teach a course in Christianity on this thread. If someone else wants to take it on, more power to them. Let's just say, short version, that the Old Testament is Jewish law, and the New Testament is Christian teachings.
I don't know what OT scriptures about submission you are referencing. According to my Bible concordance, submission is only written about in the NT...so if you wouldn't mind, please share chapter and verse in the OT where it says the wife should submit to the husband as the husband submits to the Lord. Thanks!!!Yes, I get that, but old testament writings still state (as far as they can be deciphered) that women are the mens property... owned. There is talk of confusion about submission in this thread, therefore ONE of my points is just that, confusion about new teachings VS old teachings