Ok. I'm going to try again.
First: On respect.
You say you respect your great-grandmother. But then you say:
Ok, on to some advice:
See - this is the problem, and this is also what I tried to explain to you before. She 92 - if your grandmother couldn't change her in 73 years, you're not going to do it in a few days. Accept it. Don't go around telling yourself she must... she mustn't... she should... she shouldn't... She wont - Full stop. So change what is in your power to change - your own response.
There will always be people in your life who will criticise you for the choices you make. (Wait till you become a parent, and get told at least once a week that you're screwing up your kid with what you're doing ) The fact of the matter is that everyone is entitled to their opinions, even if you don't agree with it. The sooner you master the art of shrugging off opinions about you that you don't agree with, the happier your life will be.
PS: What do you wear to work? A uniform? Or do you carry out your duties as a manageress, dressed in torn jeans and a tank-top?
First: On respect.
You say you respect your great-grandmother. But then you say:
Seriously? She didn't say one nice word to you, or share a story, or do anything fun? Was every word she said throughout every day a criticism against you? Really?Cop2be said:she did nothing but hound me about everything.
What a very respectful thing to sayCop2be said:My whole point was my great grandmother bitches about everything under the sun, so if she bitches about this its not different than her bitching about everything else she bitches about.
Ok, on to some advice:
You know, a fight can only last if there are two parties involved. One person can't fight on her own. Thus, the easiest way to keep the peace is to not fight back. Just say "yes, grandma", and walk away. Fight over. Peace restored.Cop2be said:And there is no keeping the peace.
Why does it stress you out? Is it that important to you that she approves of everything about you? Is she not entitled to her opinion?Cop2be said:I just wish there was a nice way to say to her, this is who I am I would appreciate not hearing remarks or huffs and puffs about everything as it stresses me out.
See - this is the problem, and this is also what I tried to explain to you before. She 92 - if your grandmother couldn't change her in 73 years, you're not going to do it in a few days. Accept it. Don't go around telling yourself she must... she mustn't... she should... she shouldn't... She wont - Full stop. So change what is in your power to change - your own response.
There will always be people in your life who will criticise you for the choices you make. (Wait till you become a parent, and get told at least once a week that you're screwing up your kid with what you're doing ) The fact of the matter is that everyone is entitled to their opinions, even if you don't agree with it. The sooner you master the art of shrugging off opinions about you that you don't agree with, the happier your life will be.
You could try, but if she's anything the the other 90-something women I've known, it won't end well. At best, she'll ignore you. At worst, she'll say well don't dress like a tramp, then I won't make comments. (Not saying you dress like a tramp, but... well, I'm sure you get it.)Cop2be said:Would it be wrong of me to tell her if she says something, "that's not nice please don't make comments like that"?
PS: What do you wear to work? A uniform? Or do you carry out your duties as a manageress, dressed in torn jeans and a tank-top?