No.. thats only part of it. I don't engage in sexy time at Sean's Mom's. I'm sure she wouldn't want to hear the sounds that may come from the room. We don't have sex at his brothers, ( We use his niece's room when we visit and how gross with that be for her?)Cop2be said:So if we were married it'd totally be ok.....but since we haven't paid for a piece of paper it's not??
So being married would make it ok?
Or would you expect a married couple to sleep apart as well?
Why does everyone assume that if two young people sleep in the same bed they'll have sex?
For that matter, my Honey likes the TV on at night, they all like the quiet so we leave the TV off. Not because they asked us to, but rather, we wanted to be less of a irritant than what we would be by doing things our way.
I smoke, but never in the house of non-smokers. Even when they provide an ash tray. I think its rude so I step outside.
Its the totality of all you do, while respecting someone else's space and beliefs.
Obviously we see things very different. You believe that you have a right to be whoever you want to be and grow into whatever you like.
I agree but... I believe that considering other people and their feelings, respecting what it is that someone else is even if you don't agree, giving serious thought to how you can overlook instead of demanding someone overlook for you...knowing that what you say and do DO in fact affect other people... all these things make you grow in character. You want to be treated like an adult. I think the first sign of being grown is when the excuses stop, the victim oriented stance on things stop, the stand in our face and defy who you are to prove who I am stops.
You are blind sometimes to the other side of the story and so hell bent and determined to prove your point you miss the rest.
You Grandma is old. The truth is, she'll die soon. Instead of trying to change her, accept her. Don't say things to hurt her that won't fix a thing.
When you say.. I can't afford to throw money away on a t-shirt.. I have to wear tanks.. but follow it up with we offered to pay for our own hotel.. and we're taking them out to a really nice dinner... You can afford a $3 t-shirt. One cop made me mad, so I refuse to live my life long dream because I won't associate with the likes of them.. instead of.. I still want to change things for the better... now more than ever. See the whole picture.. not just the one you want to see or put out there.
I'm really not trying to belittle you here. But age has nothing to do with being grown in my mind. Attitude does. Drive does. Responsibility does. Compassion does. The ability to see that the world simply doesn't revolve around you does.